I'm in the same boat, I'm on the brink of deciding between the Facial Team, DiMaggio, and Meltzer. I'm active online regarding trans stuff but barely spend any time at Susans, and was surprised to see so much anti-DiMaggio stuff here. And anti-Melzer for that matter, I noticed a couple comments. I still have a lot of digging through this forum to do.
I have met with DiMaggio and Meltzer in person, and I have a skype consult with the Facial Team coming up.
I picked those three based on whose before & after results I liked the best, after looking at photos from every doctor I could find, partially thanks to the ffs-support yahoo group. Based on the results photos, Dr. O would be on my list if he weren't retiring, and if I were considering Thailand I'd think about Chet too.
DiMaggio, I'm a little suspicious of his noses, and his unwillingness to answer my concerns about it in person, but maybe that was a language barrier? Meltzer, I have some other minor gripes.
Even after reading complaints, I have full confidence that all three of my choices can hold a scalpel straight and do complicated type III forehead work and have a similarly low chance of complication. What I'm concerned with is their artistic choices. So basically where I'm at now is, I'm going to decide based on the virtual mockups from all three...which is like pulling teeth to get them to do it, but I'm gonna keep at them.