given the holidays has thoughts of contacting lost friends entered your mind

[stephaniec]

Just wondering if the holidays have brought thoughts of taking a chance and looking up lost friends through the social networks since beginning transition. I kind of been thinking of it . I have a Facebook account in my preferred    gender, but I also still have my other account with the past. I could just post my real picture on the old account and wait for the response which would be swift whether positive or negative I don't know. It's just  so much water under the bridge. I'm just going through a curious conundrum at the moment because of the holidays. Has anyone tried to resurrect the dead.

[Zoetrope]

Yeah, I went through all of that when I came out early this year.


I joined FB (which I had insisted I never would) and sent out hellos to all my old friends.

Most offered their friendship and support anew, which was just wonderful.

A few did not, and those included some who I hadn't expected to struggle with my choice.

But it's ok. Look at the positives :~)


Family? That's a different matter.

I had a vivid dream just last night that the new me, my parents, and Pope John Paul II were all sitting down together and getting along.

I suppose I *do* feel it will take divine intervention to bring us back together ...


Sarah

[stephaniec]

Yea, I had one of those dreams a couple of days ago. The holiday spirit.

[Brenda E]

I'd be tempted to not contact lost friends - right now, at least.

The holidays can be a weird time emotionally.  There's a reason those friends are lost, right?  Even if it's as simple as "they weren't actually that important to me".  Think it over.  Give it a few months, at least maybe March or April.  Then if you feel the same way, go for it and make contact.

[stephaniec]

I've been thinking about it for quite awhile , like pre transition . the transition just added a major other layer to the cake

[BunnyBee]

I avoid making any kind of major announcements during the holidays.  But there are people I think about often and wonder if I should reach out the rest of the year.  Usually I ultimately decide against it.

[stephaniec]

I guess there's always that reason that made you try to move on

[Rachel]

I was thinking post transition of contacting a few of them with a pick and some explanation.

It has been 17 years and they were my alcohol and drug fiends. I left them when they kept on trying to get me to drink and do drugs when I was going clean and sober. I do not know what has happened in their lives.

There was my 1st love of 4 years and he dumped me because he did not want to be gay anymore. I was thinking shared apartment and he was planning his departure. I wonder if he is with a guy or girl?

There were my street friends growing up and they too were alcohol and drug friends. I was younger than them and they delt and pot and hash were free for me. Alcohol I had to pay for.

There was a group of girls (one of which I chose my name because she was so unbelievable nice and genuine) I would love to meet up with. I miss them and regret losing contact with them. I saw one at my mom's funeral 3 years ago and she said for me to contact her on face book and the group still gets together.  There were really nice and I think I will contact them when the time is right.

[Zoetrope]

Well, I've just been inspired to send hellos to a few other long lost friends.

Let's see who bites, shall we? :~o