Quote from: Brenda E on January 03, 2015, 11:48:07 AM
Absolutely agree on the idea that good, natural hair is hugely important to many of us, myself included. There's almost no limit to what I'd do to keep my hair.
Most women feel very strongly about hair, regardless of whether they are cis or trans, but hair has special meaning to me. My hair was the reason I could sometimes pass as female even with a rectangular body shape and men's clothing. Through all the years of my dysphoria, hair was the one thing that comforted me. Knowing that my hair was there gave me a reason to go on. As I typed that, I broke down in tears, something that has never before happened to me while typing a post.

QuoteAs to your latter sentences, I hate to read that you feel that way. While natural hair is nice, there are many here who find a decent wig is a more than adequate replacement - far better, in many cases, than fading natural hair, and certainly undetectable to even the most persistent onlookers.
The world would be a far worse place with the loss of any one of us. 
For most trans women, HRT is the end of hair loss. For me, nothing helps.
My hair was part of my identity (notice the past tense). Without stopping the hair loss and regrowing my natural hair, I cannot be myself. All I can ever be is a pretender, and I already decided that I can't live my life that way. Pretending that I can be myself while living in a male body did not work, and pretending that I can be myself without
my hair is no different. My parents and several therapists have also recommended wigs. I find it offensive because it implies 1) that there are alternatives to my natural hair (no such thing as an alternative) and 2) my hair loss is a hopeless, lost cause (given its recentness and suddenness, my age, and my use of androgen blockers, it is hard for me to see how it is a lost cause). I would get a wig only if totally bald, and somehow I doubt I will live to see that happen, even though it seems only a few months away. I kind of hope something happens to me - either hair regrowth and cessation of loss, or the next best thing, a 5 letter word.
If you made it that far, thank you for hearing me out. It is nice to know
someone cares.