Quote from: Asche on January 06, 2015, 06:08:47 AM
I've heard a lot of (cis-)women complain about the same thing.
There seems to be a whole male culture of thinking about women solely in terms of how closely their appearance meets some arbitrary standard of "looks," and heaping contempt upon any man who "settles" for less than a "ten." I've even run into guys like that. I gather on-line dating is full of men like that. It's an effective way of making sure (generic) you never have to actually have a relationship with a woman, because the few women who meet your lofty (ugh!) "standards" don't need to "settle" for a shallow jerk like _you_ (still the generic "you," BTW)
I don't think _all_ men are that way. But it wouldn't surprise me if it turned out that looks-obsessed men are overrepresented in the dating meat-market. As they say, before you find your prince, you gotta kiss a lot of frogs.
I don't know if it's appropriate to say this (but then, when have I ever been good at being "appropriate"?), but from your writing here I picture you as beautiful, someone who it would be delightful to spend an afternoon or evening with. Any man (or woman) who can't see that, or worse, doesn't value that, is somebody you're well rid of, IMHO.
As I've said its true of women seeking men also.
A lot of women immediately dismiss shorter guys. And not even very short, as in if you're less than 6' tall you are immediately rejected. Hence a lot of guys who are 5'11" "round up" to 6'. Those who are shorter are out of luck. Luckily for me I'm out of that now as I'm married and trans but it was plenty of silence on online dating for a long while since I'm only 5'6" -5'7".
Shallow people come in both genders and all shapes and sizes!
