well, I told him

[stephaniec]

The man I've been dating online sent me a beautiful letter telling me his thoughts about a relationship with me. I truly never in my wildest dreams thought someone like him would be interested in getting to know me. I put my self on the dating site as an experiment to see what would happen and now I just want to cry so hard. I just feel so sad, I'm so sorry what I did. I'm waiting for his reply , but I'm pretty sure what it's going to be

[ashrock]

Good luck! Sometimes it works out better than you can imagine.... Recently had a fling with a guy, when I told him, it was a complete non-issue; had a hard time comprehending it, then a hard time believing it, then once he understood said that it didnt matter, he honestly couldnt see me as anything other than a woman anyway.  Decided not to pursue things with him as Im really more into girls than guys...

[stephaniec]

thanks

[mrs izzy]

Is the glass half empty or half full.

How you have to look at new relationships.

They are unknown till you ask the question.

Hugs

[stephaniec]

thanks

[Mariah]

I wouldn't sell him or anyone short. You never know what a person's response is going to be. The guy I'm in a relationship with now took it surprisingly well. He was wide opened to it. I can tell he is still processing everything due to the fact that when he hit certain subjects that intersect with it that cause him to pause for a bit and in some cases ask more questions. The other thing that is important is to be patient and give the needed space if necessary to help sort through this at his or anyone's own speed. As much I want to help him and speed him through things I know I can't and half to let things take their natural course as much as that is hard for me. Hugs
Mariah

[ImagineKate]

Didn't you list yourself as a trans woman anyway? I really hope he accepts you, everyone deserves happiness.

[ashrock]

Didn't you list yourself as a trans woman anyway?

Thats a rough one to just throw out there publically... At least for me personally...

[stephaniec]

Didn't you list yourself as a trans woman anyway? I really hope he accepts you, everyone deserves happiness.

there is a female site and a male site. I listed on the female side n, but not on the male side. He said something a couple of days ago that made me think he saw the profile in the female section , but I'm not really sure

[ImagineKate]

So he saw you in the male section and wants to date you? He thinks you're a gay man? Hmm not sure how that is going to work.

[ImagineKate]

Thats a rough one to just throw out there publically... At least for me personally...

It is but some dating sites have that option.

I personally wouldn't disclose until things got "serious" but that's just me. (and it's not like I'm even dating anyway)

[stephaniec]

I wouldn't sell him or anyone short. You never know what a person's response is going to be. The guy I'm in a relationship with now took it surprisingly well. He was wide opened to it. I can tell he is still processing everything due to the fact that when he hit certain subjects that intersect with it that cause him to pause for a bit and in some cases ask more questions. The other thing that is important is to be patient and give the needed space if necessary to help sort through this at his or anyone's own speed. As much I want to help him and speed him through things I know I can't and half to let things take their natural course as much as that is hard for me. Hugs
Mariah

well, there is always hope.

[stephaniec]

It is but some dating sites have that option.

I personally wouldn't disclose until things got "serious" but that's just me. (and it's not like I'm even dating anyway)

he seemed to be really interested and I freaked out. Never ever expected someone like him to have an interest . I really only did it as an experiment, which blew up in my face

[Mariah]

Hold on to your hope, It's almost always better to be optimistic anyway.
Mariah

well, there is always hope.

[Ms Grace]

You never know your luck. But if it doesn't work out, onwards and upwards! Hugs

[stephaniec]

So he saw you in the male section and wants to date you? He thinks you're a gay man? Hmm not sure how that is going to work.

I posted on the male dating side as a female. He's straight and widowed. I posted as Stephanie my profile said straight female and I posted on the female side as transgender lesbian

[stephaniec]

You never know your luck. But if it doesn't work out, onwards and upwards! Hugs

thanks it's a bummer though

[stephaniec]

thanks everyone for the help I feel better

[ashrock]

he seemed to be really interested and I freaked out. Never ever expected someone like him to have an interest . I really only did it as an experiment, which blew up in my face

Wow.... uhhhh, yeah... kinda mirrors my experience... Got drunk, dude wanted to make out and I went along with it because, well, it was nice to be wanted (and I was curious if maybe I was straight... guess not...).  Felt like I should tell him, and was tipsy enough to have the courage to do so.

[stephaniec]

well, He just emailed me , but I'm too afraid to look at it, so I'll update the situation soon or something