Stephanie, I can feel your angst through the monitor. Boy oh boy!!! do I know that feeling of having to tell someone and there is that little awkward moment of silence when you finally get it out in the open and the mindheart is racing, but yet you nervously remain calm and you can literally see their thoughts as they are trying to assimilate the 'landscaping' (cause I know that's what they are doing). In some strange and truly bizarre way it makes me feel a weird rush of power, weakness, fear, brave reality, confrontation, peace, love, anger, rejection and acceptance -- all at the same moment!
Your subject line is a good subject topic all to itself. Hang in there you bravesmartgirl and whichever way it goes -- it goes. Just remember you are not alone in this except only in the methodology used to tell him.