Confused

[transtastic]

I want to wear female clothes, I want a red bicycle, I want female furniture in my home, I want female friends,
I want a female body except for breasts and vagina (but Im not really sure). I want to do electrolysis of my
facial hair. I dont want body hair. I want a more female voice. I want to move like a woman.

Is it obvious that I am transsexual? I am really not sure, and Ive thought so much about that I cant think
objectively about it anymore.

[stephaniec]

sounds like time for a therapist

[suzifrommd]

Is it obvious that I am transsexual?

No one knows for sure. Certainly the things you've mentioned, you'll find them all common among the trans people here at Susan's.

[CaptFido87]

Is it obvious that I am transsexual?

Well that's the hard part about it. There's being a transexual and theres being a transgender. I feel like there's a difference in both of them. Transexual to me is more of a desire to want to be with someone like this. Transgender is the need to become the other gender, because the current role is either you just can't stand it or you aren't mentally in the right place.

So to me this is question of wanting to be a transgender. Yes you've stated some interesting facts that I would say are leading you to become a woman. Or it could simply be a call for you to become a cross dresser. You get all of the benefit of living, looking, and acting like a woman; but you can go back to being a man anytime you want. This may also be a factor.

One things for sure: you need to seek a therapist. Only they will determine where your heart and mind truly lie. I wish you the best in finding that right path for you

Marty (Sammi)

[JoanneB]

No sane person Wants to be a transsexual. We all want to feel "normal". For a transsexual what you need to do in order to feel normal is also abnormal to about the entirety of the world. So it always comes down to which pain is worse?

It is way too easy for us mere mortals to latch onto an idea. Many of the things you listed can point towards being a transsexual. It certainly points towards some level of gender dysphoria. It can even point towards a fascination with the subject.

It takes a fair amount of reflection and introspection to begin to find clarity. It takes a lot of understanding of GD and how it affects different people in different ways and the entirety of the spectrum that GD covers to begin to even pin down where in that spectrum you might be to even begin to figure out what needs to be done to successfully live there. It is too easy to lie to yourself and avoid asking the hard questions of yourself. This is where a therapist, especially a gender therapist, is best.

[transtastic]

I've started seeing a therapist but I just wanted your opinion.
Sick thing is , I sort of feel I WANT to be transsexual (which you say must mean Im insane )
For me being just a crossdresser would live me with a feeling of "oh, so that was all huh? "

[suzifrommd]

Sick thing is , I sort of feel I WANT to be transsexual (which you say must mean Im insane )

I felt this way early on. Allowing myself to see myself as MtF (which came fairly late in the process) was a great relief. Early on, I didn't understand - I thought you had to "feel like a woman" to be MtF. I was jealous of the lucky transsexuals who got to live as women whereas I was stuck living as a man.