Quote from: Dragomir on January 17, 2015, 07:38:13 PM
Any advise?
First, welcome to Susan's. There are a lot of people here who have gone through, and are going through exactly what you are.
My advice:
1. Congratulations for figuring out who you are. Even if your father is not supporting you (yet?), it's a big step.
2. Sometimes a parent only needs to be educated. Don't know if that's the case with your father, but might help to make sure he knows the following facts:
* Being transgender is not something we chose. We are born that way.
* It doesn't go away on its own.
* It is serious. People who ignore it often suffer from anxiety and depression as a result.
* There is no "cure". No one has ever found a way to make it go away, and there has been very little success getting transgender people to feel comfortable with presenting in their birth gender if they feel a need to transition.
* Transitioning is, in many cases, a very effective treatment, leading to a happy life being comfortable with who you are.
You may need to repeat some of these multiple times - sometimes people are resistant the first time they hear something. Also keep calm as you try to educate him, though it's easy to be frustrated.
3. Your father can't prevent you from transitioning. At worst, he can delay it a few years. In the end, you will be able to live as you choose.
4. Can your mom advocate with your dad for you? If not, is there another adult in your life who might be able to do this.
5. Most important, understand that your dad is wrong. Maybe he's doing what's he thinks is best, but you deserve to have your identity respected. Please don't forget this.
Good luck, Dragomir. This is hard, and you'll need to look into yourself for strength.