Whose it harder for?

[Tessa James]

Is it harder for transgender children or adults? I honestly can't tell who has it harder. I don't know which does and I'm having trouble writing this part of my story for it. If anyone could answer I'd love it.

Some interesting and thoughtful replies.  The beauty of your situation is that you are the author of this "story" and the direction you imagine for the characters you create is freely yours to determine.  Choices are good to have?

[LatrellHK]

All good points, very good points.
I am educating myself and have been for the past two years. I'm learning new things all the time and getting more and more anxious as my graduation approaches and I'll be very free to get out of here and move somewhere where jobs, houses, surgeons, therapists, and everything I need is.

[LizMarie]

I don't think we should generalize.

My own transition has been mostly positive with a couple ugly negatives. Overall it's not been as hard as I feared though I have lost my marriage and my eldest son (and his children) from my life.

I've also encountered kids who have had amazing and positive support, and those kids are happy and unaware of how bad being trans can be. On the other hand there are Leelah Alcorns. And there are adults who are so marginalized and demeaned that they too take their own lives.

So I try not to generalize. I realize everyone's path is unique. Some are very, very difficult, and some are not difficult at all. And just meeting a transperson, I have learned never to assume how good or bad someone's personal journey has been.

[BunnyBee]

Idk which is harder, it's definitely different tho.  I think this is why it's easier for me to relate with people that transitioned at the same age I did than it is to others.  Each starting point age range has their struggles and advantages.