well, ive chimed this topic many times.
being post op, my opinion.....
on your profile, NO, its not a requirment to list your life history.
I never did the long drawn out online thing, if they were not i my area, i just shut that guy down and moved on. chances are it wasnt going anywhere and amounted to a waste of time.
Local guys, i would use the online news to feel them out from the get go. were they open minded, accepting , etc.
then before I met, or certainly after the first meeting, especialy if the first meeting was by chance, say at a night club, I would make the phone call.
I met my husband in a local night club / bar. was on a date with someone else, yes my date knew my story, ....
My husband was playing pool, 8 ball. I played a few games, beating him. every time , he went over and sat next to my date.
Later that night he asked if he could call me. when i offered my number, he sais he already had it...?? got it from my date, lmao.
the next day he calls, saying he wanted to see me again. AT that point, i pumped the brakes, and started with that dreaded but nessesary line, " there is something I must tell you".
He let me speak, and I told him, Post op, completed transition, etc.
His reply, yep, your date told me....
married now 9 years.
Honesty, sooner then later, saves the wasted time o someone not understanding and accepting. not telling lends on deception. remember, a lie is a lie in the context of, " a lie of omission"
Everyone has their own personal choice, as to when to tell. Think it through, wear their shoes.
and for your safety, please, dont do some long drawn out online thing, then months in, decide to tell in person at the first in person meeting. Bad choice in my opinion. no tellin how a person is going to react, so best to be on the phone verses standing there in front of them.
