Friend trying to "save you".

[Obfuskatie]

Yep, I think if anyone suggests you to explore your sexuality when you talk about gender identity, they are confusing concepts. No matter they are psychologists or plumbers.
Did you ask your therapist the link he or she does between sexuality and gender identity ? (Could inform you about how confused it is for them and you could decide if it's a good idea to continue with them).

I think it's more likely that there are a lot of psychologists that want to diagnose you themselves.  Walking in to see them for the first time and saying, "Hi, I think I'm trans," can be off putting for some.  Also, there are a lot of cis-people who think that being trans is a bad thing that you should avoid embracing at all cost.  They tell you to exhaust all the other possibilities before you go with transgender, since they have no clue how big the trans-population actually is and how successful you can be in your transition with enough money and dedication.

If you do decide to transition, find a gender-specialist for your therapy.  Don't take shortcuts; fillers and blackmarket hormones can kill you.  Be patient with yourself, and with the important people around you, adaptation takes time.  And good luck.

[Ptero]

yeah, I was starting from the principle that the therapist was ignorant but wanted to help, not to deny someone's identity. But you could be right, perhaps it's just they think being trans is "bad"... (how naïve can I be ?!)

[XiaoMei]

I spoke to my friend again (she randomly contacted me) and when I explained to her in more detail why I am changing my gender, she seemed unhappy, but at the same time told me that she accepts my decision (she has a boyfriend now anyways), when I asked her why she bothered to speak to me still if she is so against this, she said to me "It's not like we are getting married" which is true!!

I also wondered, do some people freak out because they had a crush in you or something, and when you tell them you're trans, they think something like "Wait... Am I a lesbian...?!" So they get confused and distance themselves. I'm sure some people are just trans phobic in general though.


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