I don't think Dahlia means bad by her comment, and many of times I appreciate her straight up comments more than others but, here's the thing Dahlia: yes, you're right there might be some self delusion, etc, but here's the thing, many of them have just started their transitions, they might feel high on life and on cloud 9 from all the relief they feel having just started their transition. Whatever the reason, they're happy, and they're sharing it with others. Have you ever heard the term ignorance is bliss? In this case I would argue that what Susan means is, who are any of us, to knock anyone else down from their happiness? I would much rather a not too passable trans lady think she does pass (particularly If she passes enough that she's not being disrespected by others).than her be miserable and depressed in the reality of not passing so well. It's about compassion and wanting others to have their little share of happiness too.
Androgynouspainter: I am no psychologist, but you seem depressed, like your mental state needs stabilising first, taking care of that before worrying about passing or not might be a good idea, also, often our moods reflect the people we surround ourselves with. Do away with negative friends and family... Our natural state is not what is being reflected in your posts, and fighting other people's posts to bring them to think like you isn't going to help you or them. It's about bringing each other up hun. Also, I don't see the obsession with passing when your avatar says genderqueer, your name is androgynous. Are you actually mtf to have this focus on passing? Or have your feelings towards binary gender standards changed and now you want to belong in the binary world? These are things maybe you should clarify in your mind. And then work from there. But the assumption that you're never going to pass is, I believe, wrong and coming from a very depressed and negative stand point.
Regardless . Good luck sweetie . And tight hugs! Xo
