FWIW --
Once I opened the door on the closet and decided that I'm basically "Non-Hetero Normative" my libido simmered down a bit. I'm thinking (and I've dealt with this some 55+ yrs, since I was about 10 yrs old.) Cross dressing was sexually exciting, but now less so. It's just more clothes . . . More comfortable, less anxious about who I am, and as a result the angst motivated sex drive has resolved quite a bit. Basically I've come to some personal terms w/ my own "gender dysphoria."
In between the cultural expectations for "Male" and "Female" there is a continuum that signifies "Non-Normative" and opens some doors for ID and "who we are" -- Perhaps getting comfortable w/ "none of the above" might ease back the dysphoria motivated sex drive.
I've had cis-female partners who understand my sexual orientation (I like females, exclusively). Currently not sexually active, not with other people at least . . .
Beyond figuring out a sex partner, you have the option to be you. No need to run the gambit of hormonal/medical/surgical intervention to be who you are. "None of the Above" is an acceptable answer.
