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Want to live as female, don't want to transition...what's a girl to do?

Started by StrykerXIII, February 16, 2015, 05:49:18 PM

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alexbb

cant wait to get a tracheal shave till then, scarves are hip for a few more winter months phew!

Allison Wunderland

FWIW --

Once I opened the door on the closet and decided that I'm basically "Non-Hetero Normative" my libido simmered down a bit. I'm thinking (and I've dealt with this some 55+ yrs, since I was about 10 yrs old.) Cross dressing was sexually exciting, but now less so. It's just more clothes . . . More comfortable, less anxious about who I am, and as a result the angst motivated sex drive has resolved quite a bit. Basically I've come to some personal terms w/ my own "gender dysphoria."

In between the cultural expectations for "Male" and "Female" there is a continuum that signifies "Non-Normative" and opens some doors for ID and "who we are" -- Perhaps getting comfortable w/ "none of the above" might ease back the dysphoria motivated sex drive.

I've had cis-female partners who understand my sexual orientation (I like females, exclusively). Currently not sexually active, not with other people at least . . .

Beyond figuring out a sex partner, you have the option to be you. No need to run the gambit of hormonal/medical/surgical intervention to be who you are. "None of the Above" is an acceptable answer.



"Let us appropriate & subvert the semiotic hegemony of the hetero-normative dyad."

"My performativity has changed since reading Dr. Judith Butler, Ph.D., Berkeley."
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mac1

Given my current circumstances full transition is highly unlikely.  However, it would be great if I could be able to pass openly and unquestionably (with as many female body features as possible) both privately and publicly with my wife.
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