What is the most ridiculous thing someone has said/asked you regarding trans?

[Jen72]

Abysha I couldn't agree more on the scared to open pandaras box concept and the questions asked because of well lets face it intrigue of the unknown and what that may mean.

Pollypagan Your doctor all I can say is really on the voice thing. Then again how many of us if we had never thought of this would think something along those lines before finding out the truth/s.

Jill F Not that I have done much just laser hair removal but ya I can see this wont be a fun thing and lol love the barrel of monkeys on vaction:)

Jayne loved the omg you have tits thing actually told my sister/mom that both laughed at that one. Hmm maybe I should go to the supermarket more often lol.

The idea of being gay and transgender for me at least I don't feel I am gay yet attracted to male body but romantically just say I don't know but I can see how that can be both:)

Sorry had to comment on those in a way this is funny how peoples perceptions are way off reality I mean like the world is still flat. The way I look at it though in all those cases I am sure well some at least may have learned something that day they didn't even realize before. I admit what barrel of monkeys put in the pandoras box I have gotten myself into:)

Anyway thank you all for the funny things that has happened (not always funny to you when it happens of course) and all the info on what this is all about. Perhaps one day this will be more common knowledge and we can get out of the dark ages only to find out the earth isn't flat neither are our chests har har.

[LizMarie]

I can't really think of any really stupid things that have been said to me but I've had my share of deliberately cruel things. I won't mention them here though. I guess in one regard (lack of stupid comments or questions) that I've been fortunate.

[Beth Andrea]

If you'd like to see some other...interesting...things people can say, here's a thread found on page 8 of the "Arrggh!" sub-forum.

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,124007.0.html

[MugwortPsychonaut]

You shouldn't do it because you'll be an ugly woman......cis women are obviously NEVER ugly

That's so messed up that your own mother would tell you that! It's also kind of funny, because I've gotten the opposite. A gay friend told me I shouldn't transition, because I'm "a good-looking guy."

Well, I make an adorable lady, thankyouverymuch! 

[Menoimagination]

"You're so lucky you get to choose"

"I have a good gaydar, I think you are one of those transgendereds"

"You'd pass really well if it weren't for *lists off hundreds of things"

"No, but what do you have... Down there...?"

"Stop pretending to be a boy, you are lying to the world and that makes you a criminal"

"If you really want a dick then *threatens you with sexual violence"

"Why can't you just choose to be a girl and make it easy for everyone"

"You're doing this on purpose"

[jeni]

People seem to have a hang up about equating being trans to being gay. I dont get why they cant tell the difference like its even remotely the same thing

I see this a lot, including in this thread. It seems to me a little unfair to say either it's not "remotely" the same thing, or to consider it a ridiculous connection to make. It is, of course, not the same thing, but it's related in the sense that it both are deviations from the "norm" in gender-related ways. But I feel like it's a little unfair to give someone grief for not recognizing that if they've not had reason to think critically about it. It's taken society, including doctors, psychologists, and scientists, a long time to understand what we currently do about it.

I do get that it's kind of frustrating, and also that some people don't catch on even when smacked with a clue stick. But especially on coming out, I think anything anyone says to convey that they are supportive is a win, even if it's tone deaf or ignorant.

I'm not out to many people yet, so (fortunately) have not personally encountered many ridiculous comments yet. I guess the closest has been my mother, who is positive and supportive but clearly worried about the realities of transition. The last couple times I've talked to her on the phone have been "[X scary thing] is such a scary thing, you'd really have to be sure to be willing to do that. Are you really sure?" (X has included things like electrolysis, family/friends who might react badly, and probably a few other things.) I mean, I understand and appreciate that she's both personally having anxieties about it and also trying to be sure I've thought these things through, but I really need it to stop soon...

[Ayden]

"You're so lucky you get to choose"

"I have a good gaydar, I think you are one of those transgendereds"

I've gotten both of these too. I always shake my head. Yep, I get to choose. My first choice was purple people eater. *eye roll*

I do enjoy the "yer one of them there transgendereds ain't ya?". It always comes from people who know I've transitioned. I feel like they deserve a special award.

[Jayne]

I had one yesterday a man stopped in his tracks, stared at me & laughed but I wasn't in a good mood so I stopped in my tracks & got him in the crosshairs of my Paddington hard stare, I then him have both barrels

Me. What'r yous staring at?
Him. you
Me. What'r yous laughing at?
Him. Your face
Me. If you wanna 'ave a prop'r larf at someones face then look in a     ing mirror!! *

I didn't wait for a reply, I turned on my heel & left him standing there with his silly little smile on his silly chubby face, I took care to put a little extra wiggle in my walk, if he wants to stare then let him stare at my arse**

* If I get really mad then I slip into prop'r Bristolian
** sorry but he kinda wound me up, it's not often i'm still simmering the next day

[lewis]

From a totally supportive friend, who just maybe wasn't at school the day they did reproduction :

"So, I was thinking, if you start taking testosterone does that mean that you can grow sperm"

[Rotika]

ok.. b4 I start, just know I'm not bashing anyone. Just voicing an opinion.

I'm a MtF transgirl. I'm honest and outgoing and most of my family/friends are supportive. that being said...
NO ONE calls me Jennifer or with the correct pronouns. It doesn't phase me though. I have 0% dysphoria. Am I happy as a man? no. Very much the opposite. I'm so depressed I'm angry at the world.
When I still get called Paul it just means that they haven't adjusted yet. Just like I have to adjust to new things in life.. I'm understanding and patient.

Getting angry over questions such as...
   - Why are you trans?
   - Why don't you just remain a boy?
   - What name are you going to go by?

If you get angry at comments like these.. then forget your friends. Change your phone number when you change your name. Disown your family. Move to another country. Create a new life. And you'll never have to worry about people that care about you and your situation enough to ask you these things.
Communication is important. If you can't answer questions like these.. you're not helping anyone.

[Rotika]

strangest comment I've heard was when I first came out to a certain friend. I had just told him everything. so he said "ok, don't take this the wrong way or get angry.. but can I ask you a question?" i said ask me anything.. He just started asking things like "So how long until you chop it off?" lol...

I get offended when people DONT ask me questions. I feel it means they couldn't care less about my situation. But he was so sure I'd get mad in the face about it. People don't realize that I absolutely love who I am and what I'll someday be. And I kept it bottled up for years. So now I wanna talk about it! lol

[MugwortPsychonaut]

ok.. b4 I start, just know I'm not bashing anyone. Just voicing an opinion.

I'm a MtF transgirl. I'm honest and outgoing and most of my family/friends are supportive. that being said...
NO ONE calls me Jennifer or with the correct pronouns. It doesn't phase me though. I have 0% dysphoria. Am I happy as a man? no. Very much the opposite. I'm so depressed I'm angry at the world.
When I still get called Paul it just means that they haven't adjusted yet. Just like I have to adjust to new things in life.. I'm understanding and patient.

Getting angry over questions such as...
   - Why are you trans?
   - Why don't you just remain a boy?
   - What name are you going to go by?

If you get angry at comments like these.. then forget your friends. Change your phone number when you change your name. Disown your family. Move to another country. Create a new life. And you'll never have to worry about people that care about you and your situation enough to ask you these things.
Communication is important. If you can't answer questions like these.. you're not helping anyone.

Oh man, what a good attitude! You seem to have a level head on your shoulders. And yer fuggin' adorable, too!

[kelly_aus]

ok.. b4 I start, just know I'm not bashing anyone. Just voicing an opinion.

I'm a MtF transgirl. I'm honest and outgoing and most of my family/friends are supportive. that being said...
NO ONE calls me Jennifer or with the correct pronouns. It doesn't phase me though. I have 0% dysphoria. Am I happy as a man? no. Very much the opposite. I'm so depressed I'm angry at the world.
When I still get called Paul it just means that they haven't adjusted yet. Just like I have to adjust to new things in life.. I'm understanding and patient.

For me, after almost 5 years, if they didn't get my name and pronouns right, they are obviously not respecting me..

Getting angry over questions such as...
   - Why are you trans?
   - Why don't you just remain a boy?
   - What name are you going to go by?

If you get angry at comments like these.. then forget your friends. Change your phone number when you change your name. Disown your family. Move to another country. Create a new life. And you'll never have to worry about people that care about you and your situation enough to ask you these things.
Communication is important. If you can't answer questions like these.. you're not helping anyone.

There are an awful lot of uneducated cis people and a whole bunch of very sensitive trans people and when the 2 mix it can be quite volatile.. It shouldn't be this way..

[Rotika]

Oh man, what a good attitude! You seem to have a level head on your shoulders. And yer fuggin' adorable, too!

omg lol thanks hun

[immortal gypsy]

From my mother: Why can't you just live as a guy

From a former friend

Maybe if you wore a dress once and awhile I would call you a girl
God made you a guy not a girl
*in my response to he must think his girlfriend is male then when she is in pants* <Girlfriend> is a girl, you are a biy you have a penis.

That was our LAST conversation

[Eveline]

"Are those real?"

This one is kind of a double insult - as a trans woman ("what, you think I can't grow them too?") and as woman ("get lost, jerk").

Perversely, I also enjoyed it as a backwards compliment. Go figure.

[jeni]

This one is kind of a double insult - as a trans woman ("what, you think I can't grow them too?") and as woman ("get lost, jerk").

FWIW, I don't think this is common knowledge. Heck, I didn't know about HRT and its effects until a few months ago...

But, yeah, talk about inappropriate...

[darkblade]

From a close friend (who since then has come to understand): but all girls would rather be guys.

Now for context, my parents thought it would be a good idea to get a religious scholar to come over and talk to me (mainly because we wanted the religious verdict on the matter). He pissed me off, really. So I'm sitting there feeling quite uncomfortable and anxious, and after talking for a while he goes "well I don't see anything in you that's anything but feminine, you're quiet, not looking me in the eye, quite reserved.." and bla bla. Because I that's all because I'm feminine, not because it was an awfully awkward situation for me.

Another thing: I say that I feel uncomfortable when my friends throw (all-girls) parties and I just feel out of place and that I'm not supposed to be there. He says, well a guy would feel elated to be around so many girls! (and I'd implied that I was attracted to girls too..)

Right now my family is pretty much saying: if you pray enough these feelings will go away.

[Rotika]

I'm baptist to my bones. I don't ever force it on others. I just believe in something and it's personal. At the same time I'm a MtF trans. Praying something away doesn't work. Ppl should stop acting like there's something WRONG with us.

[big kim]

Do you know the one in the paper last week?
No she lives 300 miles from here
Oh I thought you all knew each other!