So I'm dating another trans woman roughly my age (20's) and we are the same height at 6 feet tall. However, she passes and I don't. A lot of people say we have very similar facial features and hair to the point where sometimes people mistake us for each other in facebook pictures lol. However, objectively looking at her and myself body wise, I could tell she is built smaller, frame wise. In some parts of her body I know this is true...slightly smaller hands and feet. But I don't have enormous hands either so it wouldn't deter me from passing. What I do feel deters me is my head size and the size of my torso and legs and such. She looks to me like she has slimmer legs and a small head as well as a slimmer torso with smaller ribcage (underbust). But here's the interesting part....upon measuring each other with a tape measure, on the whole I ended up having smaller sized legs, torso, and even underbust. And our head size was exactly the same. So I don't get it. Is it my perception warping my mind and making think I look bigger all the time? My measurements seem to fall into reasonably into cis female ranges especially for my height, and if she can pass....why am I not? Or do measurements not mean ->-bleeped-<-? Like there's tons of other trans girls with my same body measurements or many that are far far worse and they seem to pass. There are tons of pictures I have even where my gf looks slightly smaller than me too, frame wise, so I don't get it.
