Having trouble

[Jackie_W]

So I came out as trans* to my girlfriend and a few close friends about a month and a half ago, we broke up, but I haven't lost any friends and everyone says they are supportive.At the time it was the right decision, but now its almost as if I have convinced myself it was an impulsive decision and I'm second guessing everything.  Is this normal?  I was seeing a therapist weekly for 3months, and her and I both believe that I'm trans, so why do the feelings go away and come back?  I guess I'm just confused and am looking to see if anyone has experienced this before.

[Alexis79]

That's normal. It happens to many of us. If you believe you are trans, you are and that is ok no matter what.

[RosieD]

Personally (as I can't talk for anyone else) there was a bit of an ebb and flow, complete with occasional "what on Earth are you doing?" moments. It might help to write down the whys and wherefores when the dysphoria is in full flow. That way when things are calmer you can reread them and check if they are still valid. Even now with over two years of full time experience behind me I will still get an occasional "are you sure?" moment. This soon sorts itself out when I ask myself "seriously Rosie, do you want to go back to THAT?"

Or you may not be trans*. Good for you if you aren't 'cause it's a right whatnot of a path.

Rosie

[Emileeeee]

I did the same thing. Told some friends. They were supportive. I became cured and told them I made a mistake. I'm sure they didn't believe me because I gave them my life story when I came out to them. Now I have to tell them I made a mistake when I said I made a mistake. It happens.

[Ms Grace]

It's common to have these kind of doubts - there is a lot to lose by coming out as trans and society is very cis centric and antagonistic towards people who want to transition. But even the most stead fast people who have known themselves to be trans for many years will have doubts. They're not necessarily doubts about being trans but doubts about whether transition (full or partial) is the right course for them. Like I say, there is potentially a lot to lose, including those close to us.