am I transsexual/transgender??

[skylarc]

I am a girl Ive never genuinely liked girly things for example like make up or girls clothes or dresses, nail polish etc. and have always been a sort of "tomboy". I've been trying to figure out if I'm transsexual for the past several months and I'm not that sure. I feel as if I would be much happier and much more confident as a boy and I feel like mentally I don't fit with my gender. I hope this isn't just a "phase" but I am very stressed and confused about this. I need some reassurance and/or tips, if anybody could help me that would be great, really.

(btw I am currently 13 years old)

[LordKAT]

Greetings skylarc,

My daughter described her experience the same way. She decided that she was still a girl and staying that way. You may figure out otherwise. It takes time and it is often useful if you can talk to a therapist or a counselor to help guide you through. Can you talk to your parents? If so, ask them about seeing someone, if not about gender than anxiety or depression, both common to teens and often helped by talking with someone. If you can't talk to them, perhaps a school counselor or school psychologist can help you. Sometimes there are groups at school, usually high school level unfortunately, like GSA.

You may hear that phase thing. While it may be true, it also may not. If your parents are supportive, you may be able to go on puberty blockers to give you some time to figure that out.

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[sam1234]

Greetings skylarc,

My daughter described her experience the same way. She decided that she was still a girl and staying that way. You may figure out otherwise. It takes time and it is often useful if you can talk to a therapist or a counselor to help guide you through. Can you talk to your parents? If so, ask them about seeing someone, if not about gender than anxiety or depression, both common to teens and often helped by talking with someone. If you can't talk to them, perhaps a school counselor or school psychologist can help you. Sometimes there are groups at school, usually high school level unfortunately, like GSA.

You may hear that phase thing. While it may be true, it also may not. If your parents are supportive, you may be able to go on puberty blockers to give you some time to figure that out.

Welcome to Susan's. There is a lot of information here and friends to be made. To make your time here go well, I'm giving you some links to site rules and some answers to often asked questions.

I agree that a school counselor could be of some help. They may also be able to steer you to a counselor who has worked with young people just figuring out what gender they identify with. I know the feelings can be difficult to put into words when trying to tell others that you feel like you are in the wrong body. A counselor can help you put those feelings into words and also help you figure out if you are a girl who enjoys traditional male activities but is still a girl in other respects, or if your body and mind are truly going in opposite directions.

Often times, transgenders can't look in the mirror at their bodies because it causes depression or makes them feel like they are looking at someone else from the neck down. If you have a transgender support group in your area, and are able to meet some of the people, you might feel that you are like they are, or you aren't like they are. Start at the basics and go up. I'm glad you found your way here.

sam1234

[Athena]

Hi skylarc welcome to Susan's. I hope you can find answers here.

I just wanted to say that cis (non transgendered ) people seldom if ever question their gender. Also remember that there is a wide range of transgender people so even if you don't fit the stereotype of being transgender doesn't mean that you aren't it just means that you need to find out what makes you happy.

[Laura_7]

Here are some materials and a quiz that might help give you some further thoughts:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,184791.msg1642802.html#msg1642802

I'd say take the time you need, but keep at it... and ask questions, alone writing sometimes helps...

hugs

[skylarc]

Here are some materials and a quiz that might help give you some further thoughts:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,184791.msg1642802.html#msg1642802

I'd say take the time you need, but keep at it... and ask questions, alone writing sometimes helps...

hugs

Thank you for this. I looked at the quiz and found the point of view of a transsexual teen and it's scary how much i can relate to what she says. Like how she says she feels more comfortable acting like guy and that is exactly what i think. This helped quite a lot thank you.