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What does women clothing do for you?

Started by Wild Flower, March 17, 2015, 05:58:52 AM

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Wild Flower

This dysphoria is at an all time high and I cant even think straight.... "get hormones get hormones become a woman.....".

Realistically this is a hard situation since Im in Korea where I cant find any doctors who can help me.... and Im too chicken to go to a transclub and ask a "ladyboy" for help.... and theres the language barrier and they think Im a client.

I dont want sex.... to feel like a woman. I am abandoning the logic of dating men at this moment... because no guy here is serious and even if they are they are gay and want me because Im a guy.

So this is leaving me to resort to planning to buy feminine items *4 the first time..... i dont know if this will help"
"Anyone who believes what a cat tells him deserves all he gets."
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Kellam

Wearing gender apropriate apparel made me feel right as a teen. I then ran and hid for 20 something years. But every so often I would find myself wearing something that just, felt better. I was regularly buying women's clothing and not letting myself realize it, all I knew was it felt right. When I decided to finally confront this this past February I did so by ordering just one outfit, one of everything a woman might wear out. Just to test... And it all felt so right, gave my mind such a burst of peace and harmony. I couldn't deny who I was anymore

Now I have accepted myself in full, haven't worn mens clothing, apart from a raincoat, for a couple weeks (most of the past month in fact) and I am ready to go on hrt and have come out as trans to everyone I know I'm not saying taking that step will send you off on the road I am on as we all travel our own paths. But if there is a chance you think some clothes will make you feel more whole or happy, it is a gamble you can't afford  not to take.

What's the worst that could happen? :)
https://atranswomanstale.wordpress.com This is my blog A Trans Woman's Tale -Chris Jen Kellam-Scott

"You must always be yourself, no matter what the price. It is the highest form of morality."   -Candy Darling



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Wild Flower

Salesclerk thinks Im a weirdo. Thats the worst.

I bought a necklace for my sister a month ago..... but then I thought its my necklace... and the jewelry box is mine too.... they dont help though unless Im losing it (my mind), and i need something to confirm Im female.

Im going out tonight and buying at least 1 female product.

Im so transsexual this isnt even funny anymore. Its crazy almost insane what im doing to myself.....   whats holding me back is my family , but i need to look female before i go and tell them..... but im going to tell them one day.
"Anyone who believes what a cat tells him deserves all he gets."
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katrinaw

Makes me feel normal... Always has...

L Katy  :-*
Long term MTF in transition... HRT since ~ 2003...
Journey recommenced Sept 2015  :eusa_clap:... planning FT 2016  :eusa_pray:

Randomly changing 'Katy PIC's'

Live life, embrace life and love life xxx
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marikvulpina

it made the anxiety go away.

a part of dysphoria that I hadn't realized was affecting me until I started transition is the intense anxiety. I had to quit the last job I had before transitioning because it got to the point where I was having about three panic attacks a week. to console myself after I had to quit, I went out and bought my first dress.

It felt so normal, so natural, that the anxiety dropped out of me like water from a  sieve. even nervousness about passing in public was subdued compared to what I felt before, and was swiftly lost as I was getting ma'amed on a regular basis.

I haven't worn pants since.
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CB

Quote from: katrinaw on March 17, 2015, 07:56:23 AM
Makes me feel normal... Always has...

L Katy  :-*

Precisely..

It stops me from feeling cold, stops people staring at me in the nude. It enables me to have some fun with colours, styles etc.
Just normal...
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Kellam

Quote from: Wild Flower on March 17, 2015, 06:51:04 AM
Salesclerk thinks Im a weirdo. Thats the worst.

I bought some lipstick and eyeshadow yesterday, first time, and picking it out was fun. I wasn't wearing a stitch of men's clothing but the male clerk still said "of course this stuff isn't for you" I told him it was and he was immediately embarassed. I felt so proud of myself for not hiding that his error didn't phase me.
https://atranswomanstale.wordpress.com This is my blog A Trans Woman's Tale -Chris Jen Kellam-Scott

"You must always be yourself, no matter what the price. It is the highest form of morality."   -Candy Darling



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Wild Flower

Damn..... Im fearless right now.

Just found out Im doing guard duty right now.... so couldnt buy me any fem products tonight. But I got me a pink drink (peach flavor), my pink bubble gum (floral taste..... yeah Korea has that... it taste like dandelions and roses), and my pink pen....

Dont give a damn right now....

My fav colour is magenta... but pink does the job.  Eh. Tomorrow. But otherwise change my phone themes to fem themes....
"Anyone who believes what a cat tells him deserves all he gets."
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Sabrina

Women's clothing makes me feel pretty and sexy. It's all I have since I don't pass as of yet but with the help of makeup, I'm getting better. My favorite outfits involve short skirts and heeled boots. Gotta show off my legs :)
- Sabrina

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Amy85

Wearing women's clothing brings out a strong feeling of comfort. Not specifically about how the clothes fit, but comfort on the inside. A sense of peace I guess. They are also a lot of fun to shop for and pick out what to wear and all that stuff :P The clothes were for a long time the only outlet for my confusing gender feelings and I revelled in it (in private). Sometimes I just couldn't wait to get home and change into something more comfortable ;) It's funny, most women get home from a long day and can't wait to take their bra off and relax... but I couldn't wait to get home and get mine on lol.
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noleen111

It makes me feel on outside how I feel inside.. a woman.

It feels so natural to wear women's clothes.. I remember the first time I ever dressed fully up in women's clothes.. before that it mainly pantyhose and a skirt...never a full outfit.. I wore a blue winter dress (knee height), black pantyhose and a pair black high heel shoes.. Funny that night was the first time i wore a bra.. too.. That night I went all out.. makeup, shaved my legs.. first time for that too.. I had a cis-girl help me..

I remember the feeling.. when I was getting ready it felt so natural.. like I have been dressing up like this all my life.. I learnt how to apply makeup quickly.. walking in heels came naturally.. like I was meant to be female.. The night was amazing.. i was very comfortable in that dress.. I felt like me for the first time ever...
Enjoying ride the hormones are giving me... finally becoming the woman I always knew I was
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Emileeeee

I know it's not all about the clothes, but when my body looks like a guy, the clothing at least makes me feel somewhat normal. I still stick to jeans and t-shirts. It's just the women's version, which looks pretty close to the men's version. It's just the concept that I'm not dressing in guy clothes I guess.
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Seras

Used to make me unhappy and depressed cause it didn't fit me. I hated it.
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Jill F

It made me feel like I was finally not trying to put a round peg into a square hole.   I was afraid to even go there for 43 years, for fear of the can of worms I might be opening, but I'm glad that I finally did take the path that led me out of hell. 

What was I afraid of?  Big bad Jill? LOL!
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AndreaLinda

what does women clothing do for me?? omg, is basically my drug. The sensation and comfort that it makes me feel is unmatched.  Right now I've been using my female cloth for almost 2 month for more than 15 hours a day, and I haven't felt this alive since ever. (sad, but true) :-* ;D 8)   
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Ilmari

It just feels comfortable and right to both my body and my mind; where I not only want to be, but belong. The mind rests and rejuvenates, because it constitutes a big portion of your true self made manifest in the physical world. Wearing boys' clothing (those few instances when I still do) feels completely like crossdressing, and not very nice at all.
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Steph34

Quote from: Sabrina on March 17, 2015, 08:55:07 AM
Women's clothing makes me feel pretty and sexy. It's all I have since I don't pass as of yet but with the help of makeup, I'm getting better. My favorite outfits involve short skirts and heeled boots. Gotta show off my legs :)
Showing off when you can't pass? :o
I prefer to hide my legs as that is where more muscle remains on me, not very feminine at all...

Before HRT, female clothing never felt right. Aside from not fitting well, it actually made me more dysphoric the few times I tried it. That is because it made me think more about the male body underneath, and how I knew the body was not me. I never wore it out in public because I did not want to draw attention to myself as a cross-dresser, which I was not anyway. It has always been my belief (to the relief of those around me) that I should not wear anything that does not look right on me. I am not an attractive woman, so I should not dress like one.

HRT made a world of difference by freeing my mind and starting my physical feminization. Now I can no longer wear male shirts because that feels like cross-dressing and my mind totally shuts down if I do. I noticed (and a female family member confirmed) that I look so much more feminine with the right shirts and that improves my mood and makes me more sociable. I love it now, but it neither felt nor looked right pre-transition.
Accepted i was transgender December 2008
Started HRT Summer 2014
Name Change Winter 2017
Never underestimate the power of estradiol or the people who have it.
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awilliams1701

Buying clothes initially confirmed my gender identity. As I started to figure out what my tastes were, it just made me feel free. Its incredible to be yourself and the clothes are a big part of that. At least for me.
Ashley
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Kimberley Beauregard

Quote from: marikvulpina on March 17, 2015, 08:18:29 AM
it made the anxiety go away.

I very much find the same thing for me.  That, and women's clothes make me look lovely.
- Kim
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Gabrielle_22

Women's clothes make me feel happier, freer--and safer. The safety comes in because I'm naturally androgynous, even leaning perhaps more towards feminine, but I haven't started HRT, so I need to push the balance, so to speak, in favour of visually passing as female. Wearing a little bit of foundation to even out my skin and cover up some beard shadow can be the difference between how I'm read at a glance, and the same goes for clothing. It's never safe being trans* if you're in a place where you might not be accepted, but learning how to push the scales in the direction of being read as female over male can make all the difference in not being harassed for your gender identity. And the more confidence I get, the more I learn how to do less: to wear simpler clothing when going for groceries, to try to get by with less makeup, etc.

And, as much as I love pants, god--the feel of a skirt/dress is just wondrous. It still amuses me how men I don't know will be more likely to hold a door for me or step aside to let me pass if I'm wearing a skirt or dress instead of something else. I don't want to have to conform to any gender stereotypes, but I must admit I enjoy the power women's clothing can give one in certain situations.
"The time will come / when, with elation / you will greet yourself arriving / at your own door, in your own mirror / and each will smile at the other's welcome, / and say, sit here. Eat. / You will love again the stranger who was your self./ Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart / to itself, to the stranger who has loved you / all your life, whom you ignored" - Walcott, "Love after Love"
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