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Started by meghang, March 21, 2015, 04:09:41 PM

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meghang

It has been 2 years I have been living and dressing as female fulltime and I love it now.It was September of 2012 that I came out that I was going to live and dress as female fulltime in January of 2013.It was a shocker,good and bad.I struggled through my life feeling that I was really female and did consider suicide.I am glad I did not consider suicide and found a great therapist that diagnosed me with gender dysphoria.I came out after being diagnosed,Some took it well and some did not.My wife and son were good about it and been supporting me.My wife says I am still a great dad and husband liking the new me.We like to go shopping and get our nails done together.My parents,it's going to take time for them to accept the new me that I am finally happy.I am their only child and do miss their son although I am in their life still.We talked about it and they think it's their fault.I keep on telling them it not their fault,tell them this is how I feel.Work,I got fired after I came out and that was hard.Was not told why I was fired for.It was in December that I did get a job offer and took it which the work place is 100% transgendered friendly.I love it too knowing I am 100% comfortable there.My co workers have been great about me being transgendered.The struggles are starting to go away now.Next step is my patents and I are going to talk with my therapist on site to get them to accept the new me which will be on Monday.
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Tessa James

Congratulations Meghan,

It is a bit over 2 years for me too.  Glad to hear that your family is accepting and that you are struggling much less now.  This does get easier and going on three years now it feels less dramatic and more just an everyday part of life. 

Glad to also hear about such a friendly work place.  We spend enough of our waking hours there for it to make a big difference in our happiness.  Being transgender is just one part of our life but feeling right about ourselves makes everything else seem to make better sense for me.  Congratulations on your progressive steps.
Open, out and evolving queer trans person forever with HRT support since March 13, 2013
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meghang

My work place has a policy that does not discriminate GLBT people in place.I do use the women's restroom with no problem there.My wife's family has been great about the changes also,they do love and accept me still.
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Tessa James

Gotta love that bumper sticker; "Love make a Family"  it sounds like you are doing really well.  Keep it up girl!
Open, out and evolving queer trans person forever with HRT support since March 13, 2013
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meghang

I am doing very well and my son has been through it.He has been teased and picked on and luckily the school takes care of it very well.My son sees me as a normal dad in his life,kids pick on him for having a dad that is transgendered.My son is a smart 16 year old.
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Tessa James

My daughter got a lot of that too and was invited to many churches that wanted to save her from me;-)  We remain very close and she is very comfortable with the diversity in her life.  She has continued to call me dad but not at my request and I am grateful for our family relationship.  My wife now calls me her wife and I really like that too as i rarely felt like a typical husband.

Your smart son obviously had some quality nurturing along the way and it suggests you created a trusting relationship long ago.  Teenage years are so very dramatic with those peers more important than ever it seems.  A good time to check out their own comfort levels with diversity and I can only imagine you are there for him too.
Open, out and evolving queer trans person forever with HRT support since March 13, 2013
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meghang

My son and I are close and raised him very well.He calls me dad sometimes and sometimes Meghan,I have no problem with both.
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