I think you would be surprised at what goes on behind closed doors as far as sex. What works for one person doesn't for another, but if you are with someone you trust and care about, there is no need to be embarrassed about telling them what you need. Part of intimacy is the connection of two people, not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually as well. If you can't trust someone enough to talk about things like that with them, do you really want to make yourself vulnerable by having sex with them?
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