What does it mean to be transgendered to you

[enigmaticrorschach]

not sure if there was a topic in this but i'd like to know what it means to all of you. being transgendered to mean means your not simply just either aan or a women. you become something more, let's see, complex but yet simple. a mle to female becomes not simply as women but a women among women or a female to male becomes not simply a man but a man among men. feelings and emotion are even more than what a simple person's emotions are. your more in tuned with what's not only on the outside but the inside as well. mm simply put, your note unique than the rarest creature. however your feared because you just may bring about the end. well that's it for me, lemme hear from you

[suzifrommd]

Being transgender is simple. Our brain is wired to want us to be a gender that doesn't matches our body sex.

How we experience it is complicated. For me, it was the feeling all my adult life that being a woman would be the most wonderful thing that could happen to me. It wasn't logical, didn't come from any conscious thought. It was just there, a powerful feeling.

When I began transitioning, seeing myself as female produced this amazing euphoric feeling. The idea of remaining male seemed intolerably drab.

I never "felt like" a woman. I still don't. If you shook me awake and asked me my gender, I'd probably say I'm a male. However, living as a woman is definitely right for me. I wouldn't go back for anything.

[enigmaticrorschach]

interesting. I just also find it driving me insane but I hoped on that ship since day one lol

[mmmmm]

Being transgender is simple. Our brain is wired to want us to be a gender that doesn't matches our body sex.

Wouldn't that be true more like for those who are transsexual, and some who are gender-non-binary, agender or some other variation? While many transgender people, like crossdressers, transvesties, dragkings and dragqueens, for example, do have a matching gender-biologicalsex combination, in a sense where their inner gender (female as an example) matches their biological sex (female as an example).

[pretty pauline]

I think because of my history living as a male early in life, then going through transition and becoming a woman, the woman I am now, I really appreciate and treasure my womanhood, my femininity, I have cis women friends, they don't really appreciate how beautiful and how wonderful it is just being a woman, they take it so much for granted, but because of my trans history, (being trangender) I value every aspect of my girlishness, I just simply love being a woman, now a married woman, a housewife, if I was cis, maybe I wouldn't appreciate just being a woman.

[Rachel]

I use to hate myself and feel awful about myself. Over the past two or so years since I got help to deal with my inability to accept myself and starting HRT I have slowly awakened to the reality I am different but that is ok. As I start to express more and more I feel awkward and have fear but I still proceed. As I inform others of what I am going to do I feel fear but I plan and keep going. I look back on the things I do now that are my new normal and I think how frightened I was doing it the first few times.

So what does it mean to me to be transgender? It means to me I need to fight for what. I need and hold onto what I have earned. It means to enjoy the time I have with accepting friends. It mean that although I am frightened, at times, I will get through it. Small victories are savored. Acceptance as myself is valued very highly.

[iKate]

It's like any other medical condition I have. I manage it with medication and lifestyle adjustment.

I will be brutally honest in that it's more of a burden than a blessing but I can see the silver lining sometimes. But make no mistake I would have given the world to be cis, specifically a cis woman.

[FTMax]

First, I don't identify as "transgendered". I'm transgender. Transgendered implies that something happened to you to make you this way. Nothing happened to me. It's just the way I am.

It's like any other medical condition I have. I manage it with medication and lifestyle adjustment.

And I agree with Kate. It's just a medical condition that I manage with medication in the form of hormones, and lifestyle adjustment in the form of transition. Aside from impacting my life in those ways, I don't feel that there's anything meaningful about this condition for me. I'm just a guy who had the misfortune of being dealt female plumbing and the bits that are associated with it. Nothing more, nothing less.

[katrinaw]

To me, being transgendered is being born into the wrong body, to me it also means taking steps to right the biological wrong at birth.

I believe going through that transition makes us somewhat stronger than those not confronted by GID, however it is all consuming and comes at a price, both emotionally and financially.

Would I go through this again, hell yeah, unless I was born into the correct biological gender.

L Katy

[Robyn37]

I think that being transgender is being who we are. A woman at my support group told a story of how she loved karaoke, but was embarassed about her voice. She would only sing certain songs that she thought she could sing without her voice giving her away. Eventually she hit a point where she didn't care what other people thought anymore and started singing whatever she liked, including deep voiced male country songs. This to me is an amazing thing, she started accepting who she is.

I feel that every human being on earth is constantly striving to figure out where they fit in to live a happy, successful life. In our case, that strive to be ourselves results in changes that are contradictory to the rules that society has imposed upon the human race. Once we are able to overcome these societal barriers and be ourselves, I think we are able to start reaching for that happiness that everyone wants. Am I a woman? Yes. Do I fit the role that society says women should fulfill? Absolutely not. I am me, and can't really be anyone else. Unfortunately, that is easier to write than to do, but I think everyone faces this same struggle. I don't see a lot of difference between what cisgendered and transgendered people are trying to achieve.

[Cin]

I don't really know what it means to me. Sometimes I feel like being transgender has taught me to be more understanding of other peoples' problems, especially those that are perceived to be 'different' (Often those that fall under the LGBT spectrum). Other times it drives me crazy. It has turned me into an inward, lonely, socially awkward, numb, emotionally stunted sort of individual.

[Tessa James]

It took a lifetime for me to accept being transgender and now I wear it proudly.  For me it means I have a unique and special life history that includes thinking I was going to magically grow up to be a mom until puberty.  After puberty I reluctantly worked to somehow be the man expected of me and my anatomy.  Like many I overcompensated and tried the typical paths to manhood including being a soldier and going to war.  I did't know there were options and had no language in the 50s and 60s for what was wrong with me and why I felt so alien in my own body.  Being transgender means I experienced persistent and eventually debilitating dysphoria until I addressed and accepted the truth and began transition.  Now it also means being out and on a journey to authenticity and being my more true self.   

[sonson]

Being transgender is simple. Our brain is wired to want us to be a gender that doesn't matches our body sex

this is exactly how I see it.

we are a strange subset of humanity. some sort anomaly that experiences gender dysphoria. fortunately for us, we live a time that offers the solution of transitioning.

->-bleeped-<- is very interesting if you think about it objectively. in theory, a mind that would rather die than live as the gender it was born into shouldn't exist. its detrimental to survival. yet here we are, talking to each other on the internet. we do exist, and it's beautiful. we are a shining example of how far we have come as a species, as well as how much further we still have yet to go. any person who is against ->-bleeped-<- is a person who fails to see the bigger picture.

[Jessika Lin]

It's like any other medical condition I have. I manage it with medication and lifestyle adjustment.

I will be brutally honest in that it's more of a burden than a blessing but I can see the silver lining sometimes. But make no mistake I would have given the world to be cis, specifically a cis woman.

^That.

[TransSasha]

Being transgender is simple. Our brain is wired to want us to be a gender that doesn't matches our body sex.

How we experience it is complicated. For me, it was the feeling all my adult life that being a woman would be the most wonderful thing that could happen to me. It wasn't logical, didn't come from any conscious thought. It was just there, a powerful feeling.

When I began transitioning, seeing myself as female produced this amazing euphoric feeling. The idea of remaining male seemed intolerably drab.

I never "felt like" a woman. I still don't. If you shook me awake and asked me my gender, I'd probably say I'm a male. However, living as a woman is definitely right for me. I wouldn't go back for anything.

This sums me up perfectly. I know even if I were to fully transition, I probably wouldn't identify myself as woman if people were to ask. Just me personally I feel like its rude to say so as I wasn't born female. I would probably address it as trans woman as that is how I see it. I also never felt like a "woman in a man's body" I just have an affinity to things feminine (and ironically not more or less to masculine things)

[stephaniec]

being transgender is me

[AshBear]

to me, it means I when I was born; the doctor saw me, but he didn't see ME.

During childhood, I knew something was wrong, but my mom said I was a boy. who was I to argue?
As I grew, I started trying to tell.. and crying myself to sleep a lot because I didn't like who I was becoming..
I still haven't been able to fix my body, and I curse the 'fates' (or what have you, sorry if I offend someone's beliefs) for making me grow into somebody else's life.

being transgender to me, is to constantly look forward to the day when I can just be me.

[ChloëAri]

First, I don't identify as "transgendered". I'm transgender. Transgendered implies that something happened to you to make you this way. Nothing happened to me. It's just the way I am.

I'd take "transgendered" over "transgender". The latter word really makes no sense. You wouldn't say (I'd hope not, at least) that Emma Watson is a female gender individual. She is gendered female. "ed" has nothing to do with a process. If anything, I think the issue would be more with the prefix "trans" as it literally means "to cross (over)".

[ChloëAri]

->-bleeped-<- is a form of intersexuality by which the affected individual lacks outwards identifying traits of such a condition, the discordance generally originating from the brain. Transgendered individuals may also be affected by chromosomal and/or hormonal abnormalities.

[enigmaticrorschach]

i think its a pain. the ever swelling emotions, repressed feelings digging their way out of your soul literally making your head spin faster than the speed of light. however i can say, it reveals what you truly are but its not something everyone can exactly handle. basically its just to complicated that my head hurts just thinking about it soemtimes