just a curious statistical question on op and non-op

[kittenpower]

well, I pushed the button, but I can always reverse wheels until I jump off the cliff.

This statement makes it seem like you have doubts; I hope you are 100% sure beyond any doubt before you follow through with this.

[stephaniec]

that would definitely be a bummer, but I'm 63 years old and I don't know how much time I have , maybe 20 years if I get lucky  I've had a good time with orgasm especially when I was doing LSD. I pretty sure I'll be all right with out it, but it will help if I can find a companion to give pleasure to so at least someone can enjoy it. Having a limited time on the planet helps with that problem. I could always go back to LSD .There is a movement in the psychiatric circles to bringing back LSD as a treatment for severe depression, I'll ask to be enrolled in the program, I'm sure I'll get in with that excuse.

[23 Skidoo]

What if you are unable to have an orgasm after the surgery?

Major surgery can sometimes go wrong. Also there is the possibility you will poop into a bag for the rest of your life

[stephaniec]

This statement makes it seem like you have doubts; I hope you are 100% sure beyond any doubt before you follow through with this.

that's the thing I still have to have consultation with the surgeon and I have my therapist the  work with totally on this topic, so I have time to be sure and if I'm not sure I can put it on hold till I am.

[stephaniec]

Major surgery can sometimes go wrong. Also there is the possibility you will poop into a bag for the rest of your life

chances that you have to take if you want it done. there a chance I could lose my eyesight if I cross the street and get hit by a bus. as what's his name said in the movie "Knowing" when asked by a student if he believed in fate " sh-- happens."
( Nicholas Cage)

[Kellam]

I have wanted that situation down there corected since as long as I can remember. When I found out about the surgery as a teen I knew that I would have it one day. When I reached self acceptance it was the first thing I thought of where my body is concerned. I had it on my mind all the way leading up to self acceptance too.

Also, I have never cared for sex so if I never orgasm again I'd be fine with that. Losing my libido has been one of the best effects of hrt. And on the upside, I have an intestinal situation that may land me with a colostomy anyway so if making me comfortable naked for the first time in my life results in that it is no biggie. I have already accepted pooping in a bag as a possible part of my future.

In the end, I need to never experience anything penile or testicular again (at least not my own) Tucking aint enough. Not looking aint enough. I need to be right, plain and simple.

[Christine Eryn]

At one point I thought everyone who transitioned wanted bottom surgery. I know I have every since I knew what it was when I was young. I have a friend who is 100% passible and a gorgeous head turner, but says she has no plans to ever get any GRS.

[stephaniec]

if you don't need it , you don't need it. I've just live too long with this problem I just need to straighten it out. I was quite sexually active at one time as a male and it makes you think quite seriously if this is the right path. I think for me the time is right to do it. my mind has been dealing with this issue for so long. I woke  up this morning after having my patient paper work emailed and felt a rush of joy that I'm on my way. It's like the unconscious is this hurricane force pushing me to completion and the conscious part is more analytical and cautious .

[Kellam]

It's like the unconscious is this hurricane force pushing me to completion and the conscious part is more analytical and cautious .

That is kind of how my mind works. It is how I got to where I am now, following my intuition with my conscious mind taking care of the logistics and double checking every decision. I had to teach myself to trust my intuition though, that was the biggest struggle. Learning to take leaps of faith with the only sure outcome being that the place I was headed couldn't be worse and had to be better than where I had been. It hasn't let me down yet. I am just glad that I finally learned how to listen to and trust myself!

[stephaniec]

I like the idea of being able to trust yourself

[Zumbagirl]

I was just wondering how people felt. I having a fierce debate with myself on what to do because I just got a go ahead on GRS and I'm in a middle of a hurricane rite now deciding the proper path. It's my choice and I guess I've wanted it since I was 4, If I could of consciously conceive of GRS at 4. I just trying every nook and cranny to make sure, but all I'll need to do is sign papers and move forward. what path are you taking

I've been a post-op for just over 12 years now. I am still happy with my outcome and the surgery was one of the best things I ever did. It had a huge impact on my life, post-surgery. I didn't have any doubts, but if you do, then just walk around the block a few hundred more times before doing it. It's not something that can undone.

[stephaniec]

well, I'm making sure I don't make a mistake, but at this stage of my life I really don't think I am.