Binder help and unsupportive family

[Pineeapple]

Hey everyone! My name is Casey and I'm a 17 year old (turning 18 this month) non-binary trans person.  I came out to my parents last year and they didn't take it very well. They've still yet to use my pronouns/name once and I dropped the whole thing (and they seem to have forgotten it ever happened) after my mom took me to some questionable (and clearly transphobic) therapists in order to 'fix me'.

That's not really what I need help with though. For years I've had horrible chest dysphoria and my chest is so large (like DDD) that I can't really bind without a binder, or at least not well enough that it makes me feel better. As I said my parents aren't supportive and have already refused to get me a binder. The worst part is that I currently live in Asia as I moved here for my dad's job last year, so there really aren't LGBT centers or anybody who's out as trans that I can talk to or ask for help. I was planning on holding out until I start college in America in the next couple months but I really can't anymore.

I was wondering if anyone had any advice on how I could get a binder without my parents knowing, or just getting one in general. Thanks for reading and thanks for being helpful

-Casey

[Elis]

Binders from GC2B work really well and are sent to you in non descript packaging with no writing on it saying transgender or it being a chest binder. It also won't say the name of the company on your bank statement. Or you can buy an underworks binder on amazon which won't cause your family to be suspicious (as it'll be sent to you in packaging which just says amazon, same with bank statement). You may also try looking online for LGBT organisations that give out free secondhand chest binders. Good luck

[LordKAT]

Hi Casey and welcome to Susan's.

I have used and continue to use back brace type things as binders. I find they work well and no one questions my getting them.


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[Mariah]

Hi Casey, welcome to Susan's. I'm sorry that your parents didn't take it so well. I hope in time they come around anyway. I look forward to seeing you around the site. Good luck and Hugs
Mariah

[neut5]

Binders from GC2B work really well and are sent to you in non descript packaging with no writing on it saying transgender or it being a chest binder. It also won't say the name of the company on your bank statement. Or you can buy an underworks binder on amazon which won't cause your family to be suspicious (as it'll be sent to you in packaging which just says amazon, same with bank statement). You may also try looking online for LGBT organisations that give out free secondhand chest binders. Good luck

If you do buy an Underworks binder on amazon, get the tri-top chestbinder. It doesn't roll up like the other Underworks binders and compared to most binders, it binds well.

[Elis]

If you do buy an Underworks binder on amazon, get the tri-top chestbinder. It doesn't roll up like the other Underworks binders and compared to most binders, it binds well.

Yep I bought the tri top one. It binds ok if you're smaller chested (I'm a B cup), but as you're a DDD I'd recommend going for GC2B if you have the money, I've heard they work the best for bigger chested guys. And they're much more comfortable than my underworks one. Just make sure to measure yourself correctly.