another dating topic (yay *blank look*)

[enigmaticrorschach]

I really need to get back into the dating field x.x but the drama of relationships kill me

[amber roskamp]

Just go for hookups.

it's really easy.  No drama. Just fun.

Obviously it's not everyone's thing, but it can be fun if you don't feel like maintaining a relationship.

[enigmaticrorschach]

haha, i use to do one night stands but i stopped because everyone of them wanted something more. i know its wrong but i just didnt see it working out. i have a lot of fwbs though but i'm not really that desperate

[amber roskamp]

Ok well I'm not someone that should give dating advice sorry

[enigmaticrorschach]

dont worry. lol. it makes me smile so dont worry about it lol

[Julia-Madrid]

Two things, I guess.

The first, I find, is to take the whole dating thing philosophically.  If I meet someone and at least have a decent conversation, then the experience is a success, even if nothing else follows. 

The second is to avoid drama.  If that's what you're finding in the people you meet, it warrants a little examination as to why the relationship comes with drama.  I do believe that some people need drama in their relationships, and that they either create it or find people who bring drama with them.  If this is something that's wearing you down, look at whether the dynamics of your relationships need to findamentally change in order that you may find them fulfilling instead of taxing.

Julia

[enigmaticrorschach]

idk, i do think its me. maybe its because i try to hard to make it work. maybe i just need to relax but i get the nagging feeling that if i become lax, fireballs and brimstone start flying

[Laura_7]

Well you could try to look for someone you have something in common with... and take it from there...
and maybe a more steady approach... not so much extremes...

and you do not have to adapt too much... its a balance, showing own interests and being adequately considerate...


hugs

[enigmaticrorschach]

true. i'm a very, how can i put this, mysterious and strange creature. it would take an exceptionally rare person to be able to relate to me lol. yea, i shouldnt try so hard but its in my nature. i hate being alone and i guess thats what ultimately destroys me in the end. *pets dragons while sighing*

[Devlyn]

Just go for hookups.

it's really easy.  No drama. Just fun.

Obviously it's not everyone's thing, but it can be fun if you don't feel like maintaining a relationship.

Basically this ▲▲▲.  I don't relationship well. 

Hugs, Devlyn

[enigmaticrorschach]

hey, your suppose to encourage me to make long lasters, not one nighters xD hahaha!

[amber roskamp]

idk, i do think its me. maybe its because i try to hard to make it work. maybe i just need to relax but i get the nagging feeling that if i become lax, fireballs and brimstone start flying

I guess I will try to give advice. I bolded the area in ur comment that is the reason I think u struggle with relationships.  When u focus on ur own flaws and when u think that u are the reason all of ur relationships fall on their face, it's hard to be comfortable with urself when u are trying to date someone. I know this because I struggle with it too. I have fallen into the idea that I was undateable, and it was nearly impossible for me to even attract people in that time span, I mean without settling for someone. People like people who are generally fun to be around. It's hard to be an enjoyable person when u think u are not worthy of the other persons love. I think it's important to be u, and just don't worry about what other people think. If you are confident about ur self and don't focus so much on what you are doing wrong then I think u would have better success.

Remember not every one is gonna like u. We all have preferences. What some see as an unattractive personality trait, someone else would think it is the most beautiful thing in the world. So do ur self a favor quit taking responsibility for past relationship s failures, or for them never happening. All things happen for many reasons, nothing happens for a reason.

[enigmaticrorschach]

i have to say amber, you did give good advice there. yea, its a quirk of mines that only just got magnified. idk. i'm pretty silent, i tend not to start conversations but when one is thrown, i go after it. i'm pretty talkative and fun to be around once something is started up. i'm like one of those pictures hanging on the wall. unnoticeable but there are times people just stop and start at me with an expression of interest. oh did i till you, i'm like a magnet for the loonies. seriously, i never once had a normal relationship. its like, they come off normal and i end up either getting someone who threatens to hurt themself if i break up with them, or someone who breaks up with me and expects me to come chancing after me. is it like retribution or something because idk what i've done wrong

[amber roskamp]

i have to say amber, you did give good advice there. yea, its a quirk of mines that only just got magnified. idk. i'm pretty silent, i tend not to start conversations but when one is thrown, i go after it. i'm pretty talkative and fun to be around once something is started up. i'm like one of those pictures hanging on the wall. unnoticeable but there are times people just stop and start at me with an expression of interest. oh did i till you, i'm like a magnet for the loonies. seriously, i never once had a normal relationship. its like, they come off normal and i end up either getting someone who threatens to hurt themself if i break up with them, or someone who breaks up with me and expects me to come chancing after me. is it like retribution or something because idk what i've done wrong

Lol I'm with you when it comes to the loonies. My ex ended up locking herself up in her room for like 5 days and didn't talk to anyone after she broke up with me. She actually ended up getting admitted into a mental hospital. There are loonies everywhere.

[enigmaticrorschach]

oh and now i have to deal with ->-bleeped-<-s. in my town, there are a lot of them  gah

[amber roskamp]

oh and now i have to deal with ->-bleeped-<-s. in my town, there are a lot of them  gah

It's too bad that there aren't more female ->-bleeped-<-s..... It would make hook ups easier  lol

[enigmaticrorschach]

hook ups are easy for me. almost all the girls I meet wanna get in my pants. anyways, weather was nice today except the rain [emoji1]

[amber roskamp]

hook ups are easy for me. almost all the girls I meet wanna get in my pants. anyways, weather was nice today except the rain [emoji1]

haha smooth... I was stuck in the rain all morning.... 

[enigmaticrorschach]

I had to cut grass today in the rain .-. haha, epic derailment.