katiepie, buy a good razor w/ 4 or 5 blades, and some sensitive skin shaving cream.. bad shaving experiences are usually from bad shavers..
And suenz, my wife was not as bad about me shaving my legs as she was my chest and armpits. if your wifr has issues about you shaving, ask her why does she care what others think. doesnt she want your happiness as much as you try to make her happy, but this is for you!
you sound like you may be getting deeper into this than you let on. best thing is to tell her now and not hide it if this is what you want..
my wife still has issues with my transition, but she has everything she wants. Im showing her the good things we can share if she accepts me, but also she can see what she will loose if she makes my life miserable again.. I never planned it that way, but her first remark was she will leave me and i will be alone the rest of my life. But after a while she realized it was her that would loose out. Im just trying to get at, for now try to show her a side that may appeal to her. If you cannot find that, then there will be issues in the future.. i wish you yhe best of luck, and do give this time with her, and alot of open dialog.