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should i tell my mother?

Started by enigmaticrorschach, May 15, 2015, 08:31:41 PM

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enigmaticrorschach

yea my mother is incredibly supportive and wont stop me, actually she encourages me if this makes me happy but idk if she's ready to hear that her little "boy" has started transitioning. should i tell her when she gets home or wait a little while until i start E in a few months?
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SmartAlex

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I don't know, maybe you should tell her before start if she is supportive, she'll know you trust her, and she won't feel betrayed. Also tell her that you'll do it anyway. Being in front of a fait accompli is never a good feeling, even if she wouldn't disagree (unless she is a big fan of suprise !).
Oh and I'm not really smart btw, "Smart Alex" is a song from The Adicts ^_^
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suzifrommd

I believe it's a sign of respect for the people I love to give them the truth and let them decide how to deal with it rather than hold back and not give them that choice.

Please let us know what you decide.
Have you read my short story The Eve of Triumph?
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Mariah

This. Suzi hit it right on the nose. I totally agree with what she said.
Mariah
Quote from: suzifrommd on May 16, 2015, 04:50:01 AM
I believe it's a sign of respect for the people I love to give them the truth and let them decide how to deal with it rather than hold back and not give them that choice.

Please let us know what you decide.
If you have any questions, please feel free to ask me.
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Ms Grace

Hopefully your mother will be supportive but if she is not, then what? You need to be prepared for her to react in a variety of ways. Confusion and concern are fairly common. Usually we want people to be happy for us, to tell us they accept and support us...but the shock of the news means that might not be their immediate response. So if you are prepared for her to react in her own way then by all means you should tell her.
Grace
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enigmaticrorschach

i guess i really should. the thing is, i'm starting to change so to speak. my face looks differents, my speech patterns are different, my mood is different and my over all view is different. she's just return from a relaxed vacation so i'm afraid to ruin it. one of 2 things could happen, she could say oh, well let me go with you to you monthly blood work appointment and talk to the doctor, or she could question me up the wazoo, and try to take my pills away from me until she has a talk with my sister, and my brother which could take eons.                         
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katrinaw

You have a massive advantage, shes aware of your desires!

Despite my mess, i would advise talking with her sooner than later, better and respectful to be upfront, if the reaction is not good, then be ready for that, chill and run plan B, if there's not a plan b, then think about alternatives.

But as I said, having support now is far better than none, its not a quantum leap now.

L Katy  :-*
Long term MTF in transition... HRT since ~ 2003...
Journey recommenced Sept 2015  :eusa_clap:... planning FT 2016  :eusa_pray:

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Live life, embrace life and love life xxx
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enigmaticrorschach

i understand. thanks all. i did tell her i had something to tell her so i'll tell her on sunday if i get the chance
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suzifrommd

Quote from: Echo Alcestis on May 16, 2015, 10:16:01 AM
i understand. thanks all. i did tell her i had something to tell her so i'll tell her on sunday if i get the chance

Good luck. I'm sending good thoughts your way.
Have you read my short story The Eve of Triumph?
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Eveline

Quote from: Echo Alcestis on May 16, 2015, 10:16:01 AM
i understand. thanks all. i did tell her i had something to tell her so i'll tell her on sunday if i get the chance

Good luck honey!
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enigmaticrorschach

well my mom is coming home today. idk how I should begin. should I just show her the bottle and straight out tell her what I'm doing or should j go about it a different way?

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