What if you had the choice to be cis?

[Lucyx]

I would definitely choose to be CIS, for many reasons being an 'easier' life, but mostly to have given birth to my own biological kids.

[Lady Smith]

I would definitely choose to be CIS, for many reasons being an 'easier' life, but mostly to have given birth to my own biological kids.

Yes that's the one that makes me sigh a lot too. 

[Nicole]

Back to the OP's question.

If I was a cis female living happily I would have been a little b*tch.
I know there was no way I would have done everything I could to get out of my home city, chances are I would have been knocked up by my 21st, not because I sleep around, but I jut know I wouldn't have been very smart.

Not talking myself down, but being trans is the best thing that could have happened to me, I worked harder at school, I tried to be a nicer person because I was bullied, I learned how to be on my own, make myself happy and followed my dreams.

[michelle]

I would have chosen to be a cis woman.   Then I could be myself.   I was 53 years old when I began my journey of giving up being a dyke and began my journey to find my femininity.  Since I am a woman who was born with a male's physical attributes I lay claim to my designation of living as a dyke.  No offence to anyone intended.   When I see the programs of young children proclaiming their gender, I am surprised at how effeminate the transsexual girls become without even the hint of estrogen.   Waiting until I am 53 to accept my femininity and taking another 9 years to go 24/7/375 I find it difficult to express my natural femininity.   I get glimpse of it in instances.  I have never used hormones or had any surgery.   I my Medicare insurance started covering transsexual health this Jan 1, 2016 I would beable to put my toe in the water in this direction,  I can understand why after waiting all these years that Caitlyn Jenner because she had the money came out with her breasts a blazing.  I would too if I had the means.   Because at 68 years old for me and 65 years old for Caitlyn we see a possibility of only 20 years of life left to us.  If we live for that twenty years, then we may only look 5 years ahead.    So at this time in our  lives we do the most we can with what we have.   Me, I am left with freeing the little girl within me who has hidden all these years.   Yes, my testosterone may be losing its grip on me as I age.   My choice for now is to be her more and more until despite all my male physical attributes all anyone will see is that little girl in the form of a broken-toothed old grandma.   Yes, at my age I would have rather be born a cis woman. 

[DannyWanny]

I definitely would have chosen to be a cis woman at birth. There are a great deal of things that cis women can/will experience that transwomen cannot. Such as child birth. I am pre-transition through so maybe my input isn't as effective as some other's. I'm still working up the courage to tell my parents so I think that if I was born cis, it would certainly be very much easier for me to be who I am on the inside rather than hiding it as I am today.

[The_Gentleboy]

It honestly depends. IF I was born male there is no way I would have had the same opportunities as I have had. I honestly dont think I would particularly like a cis me. Im a loud, boisterous kid and Im pretty sure that I would have hung around with "that" group of guys at school all the time. I would have been influenced by them. I would have skipped classes to play football. Messed around in every class and failed my exams. WOuld have gone on to do a very basic Level 1 course at college because I wouldnt have wanted to work. I would be smoking weed/ciggies. Getting Drunk at 14. Causing trouble and no doubt giving my mum a harder life than i am now.

If I could simply transport my soul, brain and personality into that of a cis male with all memories and achievements intact I wouldnt even hesitate.

Im pretty sure cismale me would be working full-time with no future and minimal achievements, whereas me, right now I can kick ass and will hopefully get a degree and everything ....having an actual dick though would make my life heck of a lot easier!!

Gentle

[Gyps]

Very good question! 

It's really hard for me to say, as I'm sure that many factors would be different. 

I'm really not sure that I'd have the same level of drive, will, ambition, or edge that I currently do.  I wouldn't really know if I'd have more or less artistic creativity as I do now, let alone the passion to create in the first place.  Struggle and inner turmoil certainly has enhanced my life, and I wouldn't know if I'd be in a similar position as I am now, for better or worse.

Granted, I would have probably have been a much happier individual.  I may have been a lot more developed, socially, physically, and emotionally.  But, then again, maybe not.  It's all speculation. 

So, in the meantime, I'd really have to be open ended and open minded about it.

[janetcgtv]

I would be happy to be born a cis female and do everything it means to be one. Give birth to my own kids. complain about my periods. there is both good and bad in being anything. Ups and downs anywhere. there is discrimination of many types in this entire world. Be tall get hit. Be small get hit. Do everything right be hit. Do everything wrong be hit

The main thing in the end is be happy with self and loved ones.

Oh by the way , I saw an episode on Twilight Zone where a couple wanted a million dollars and were given three wishes. The husband got killed in a car accident. So the second wish was given for him to be just before the accident but he died from a heart attack. The third wish was granted that he was brought back to life forever. However his body was completely filled with embalming fluid and was condemned to a life of being in eternal hell.

[Andre87]

I'm thankful that trans related experiences enabled me to observe situations from different angle and deal with complex feelings..but I would choose to be cis man,because then I could plan my life differently..
*first to get degree,
*make contribution to scientific research
*and then to propose girlfriend with whom I would be able to have 2 or more kids.
Ideal solution would be that our families know eachother,we study together through Uni and have kids..true soulmate..

When I was in highschool,I realized I have to switch order of tasks on my list.
As an asexual FTM with PCOS my plan changed to:

*have surgery for PCOS

*postpone puberty During highschool I was on T for 2 months but as I could predict that my love life would be too insecure(and experience confirmed my fear)..I decided not to expect much,as maybe I'll never find the right person(I must admit that most often I had crush on mtf)..and I wanted family so I stopped T.My schoollife at Uni also suffered as depression returned..

*have kid So after several years and failed attempts my baby was born.

*now at Uni

*transition after graduation(maybe earlier...)

[SamSparks]

I'd rather be born cis.  Cis boy or cis girl, doesn't even matter.  My life would have had more happy moments and I'd be worrying about things that are of far less consequence than I currently do.

[bchigdon10]

Have a question I know I am transgender mtf non op what does cisgender mean?

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[teddybear_zach]

Have a question I know I am transgender mtf non op what does cisgender mean?

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a person that agrees with their birth sex. example: a born woman that lives as a woman and vice versa.

[bchigdon10]

Thanks teddybear_zach
  Hugs from Beverly!


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[Pax Fidelis]

Yes, and no.

If there was some magic way to make my current body cis, with no drawbacks, and no other effects other than that? Absolutely.


Would I choose to be born cis and start over? Probably not. Only because I am very happy with how my life is right now and I'd be too scared to not end up in the same place. How do I know I'd be the same person, and not some arrogant jerk? How do I know I'd find my Love, and that our relationship would be the same? Too many maybes.

[Willowicious]

Yes; it would save me so much time without the need to transition, and would help alleviate several other issues as well

[Ellesmira the Duck]

I've always thought that the "cursed" girdle of gender change from DnD was such a wonderful thing. *POOF* you're a girl with all the right parts and a convenient explanation as to why everyone is just gonna have to get used to it. "No Mom I can't go back to being a boy without a ring of wishes or a genie and that would be ridiculously dangerous... NO Mom I'm not going into a dragons lair just so you can have your son back. Seriously guys you're not quest givers... No you may not bother Elminster in his tower... the last person ended up as a cheese pie..."

I have to say I love your answer and on more then one occasion have thought of similar things. =P Ultimately, I think I'd prefer to stay who I am, even if I would miss out on several aspects of childhood as a girl. Ideally, if I could just be a biological girl from now on, that'd be greeeeeat.

[Ashley Allison]

@Ellesmira... I would love to share that experience too, being a biological female now in the present but retaining all these experiences that made us... Well, us.

That being said, I would much prefer being cis at birth than being trans at birth.  I find my eyes jaded through existing in a realm that insists that I perform these typical male rituals.  I identify my deep personality traits much more with being female, rather than my current sex.  If I was born that way, would I loose the significance of being transgender? Yes, but I would gain the ability to function daily without thinking about how my birth sex is not right.

[wheat thins are delicious]

If I had the choice I would rather have been born cis, male or female, I don't care, as long as I was cis. 

[Serenation]

You wouldn't be the same person at all, Just like if I had of started on T instead E when I got diagnosed with messed up hormones. I'd probably be cage fighting or in jail.

[judithlynn]

Yes definitely without a doubt.  Being born in the 50's and looking back t my upbringing, my parents would have kept me home longer (not packed off to boarding school at 6), but probably still been sent to an All Girls Boarding School. In the 70's having passed A Levels, and been keen on sports (would have been Netball for me I suppose) and swimming and dance, I would have pursued my horse riding and probably done dressage, I would have been sent to finishing school (my parents were upper middle class) and I would have done the rounds in Chelsea as a coming out. By the end I would have been to various balls at the Regimental HQ and probably met a handsome Army officer in the Household Calvary. I could have imagined fabulous holidays abroad (early 80's, lots of fabulous clothes, then a big White wedding, , then married life in the British Army. Again lots of Army wives stuff. Then babies, childbirth and being a home maker, mother and housewife. Later on having the children grow up, grandchildren, more clothes, endless beauty treatments - endless housework. Most of all not having to constantly have the drive to over succeed and be someone else!. All the bliss that I never had!!