To crossdress or to transition?

[jeanniegirl]

I love women and want to be with a woman but want to become a bombshell woman as well. I am 71 but look 56 and wonder about my age. Is it too late for me. I want to have breasts that bounce when I walk and look like a bombshell woman. I am so confused. I get so aroused when I visualize myself the way I want to look. I am good looking and in good shape and have small hands and feet and great looking legs.

What should I do?

Jeanniegirl

[katiej]

What should I do?

Talk with a therapist and work some things out.

You seem to have an image in your mind that you want to become.  But who are you on the inside?

My $.02 --  It's never too late to transition, but you have to temper expectations.  You say you look 56, and so you may be able to transition into an attractive 56 year old woman.  But you probably wouldn't ever look like an attractive 30 year old woman.  "Bombshell" may be out of reach.  Could you live with that?

[Jessica Merriman]

I strongly second what Katie said!

[KristinaM]

I hear estrogen can actually turn back the proverbial clock a bit too, so maybe a 45-50 year old bombshell? 

[gretchenTG]

I was 54 when I started transitioning. I wished I would have started 40 years ago. But I didn't have the resources that we have now. I have a great Dr that has helped me so much. We all have the wish of some how to change overnight. It just takes time. I will say I do look younger. Best wishes and happy for you.

[jeanniegirl]

Thanks so much
jeanniegirl

[Sammy]

Well, if You can choose between those two and crossdressing would actually work for You, then that road is definitely easier, cheaper and there are less health risks and emotional roller coasters involved.

[Ms Grace]

Transition generally means living every day, your full life presenting as a woman - most women don't go for gorgeous or bombshell 24/7; they have their down time, especially when just going about their day to day. Yes, HRT can shave the years off (I'm 49 for example) but you can't rely on that either and whatever breast growth you get out of hormones may take up to two years to be well developed and not be all that bouncy except with augmentation. It certainly is never too late to transition but keep in mind that being prescribed HRT will also depend on your general health and health history, you say that you are in good shape for your age so that sounds promising. If you could go the next 30 or so years living as a woman then by all means. But I agree with comments that you really need to discuss these issues with a therapist before making any life changing decision.

[katrinaw]

I am 62 (Shoot, its out!)

I started at ~50, and as stated by GretcheTG

I was 54 when I started transitioning. I wished I would have started 40 years ago. But I didn't have the resources that we have now.

I am exactly the same, not only resources but also a slightly more acceptable society...

I love women and want to be with a woman but want to become a bombshell woman as well. I am 71 but look 56 and wonder about my age. Is it too late for me. I want to have breasts that bounce when I walk and look like a bombshell woman. I am so confused. I get so aroused when I visualize myself the way I want to look. I am good looking and in good shape and have small hands and feet and great looking legs.

What should I do?

Jeanniegirl

I am happy with what HRT has done for me, certainly helped a very aged face, is their more that could be done, definitely.. Oh and I have "B cups" they bounce a bit, if I'm active, it will all happen, but takes a little time.

However as far as my driver, I have suppressed years of desperately wanting to be a woman, from toddler ages, so I'll take what I can and if I can improve on it, great! I have spent many years, right from a kid cross dressing in one way or another, it fed my desires, as well as sort of relieve them to a degree as well... but I never lost sight of my true belief and goal (just taken/taking far to long)...

So a question is - would you be happy with anything less than being a woman... regardless of bombshell, attractive, pretty etc...

Socially I have always gravitated to women, because of mind sharing, their company, just being them if you like... apart from marrying where it was love and wanting a family (hoping it would "cure" me), oh and what was expected! I never really was comfortable in men circles, not lecherous, not sporty, not muscly, just not really manly!

Really you need to progress in the way you want and are driven towards...

Talk with your Therapist and Doctor, analyse and figure out your transition plan and work with that.

L Katy 

[Lyric]

There's a lot of discussion about this, but in my experience and observation most males whose motivation for crossdressing is sexual stimulation are not really candidates for hormone therapy and the full transition thing. At your age libido and ability to have erections tend to be lessoning anyway and hormones may take much of that away, which could defeat your purpose. Of course, there's nothing wrong with becoming as much of a "bombshell" as you can without changing the chemistry of your body if you want.

[JLT1]

I love women and want to be with a woman but want to become a bombshell woman as well. I am 71 but look 56 and wonder about my age. Is it too late for me. I want to have breasts that bounce when I walk and look like a bombshell woman. I am so confused. I get so aroused when I visualize myself the way I want to look. I am good looking and in good shape and have small hands and feet and great looking legs.

What should I do?

Jeanniegirl

I can relate.

Start therapy.  As you go through this examination of motives, you will figure out a few things.  Nothing wrong with fantasy or fetishes.  On the other hand, if everything leads you to becoming a woman, then with the therapists and MD's support, start the process.  It's never to late.

Hugs,

Jennifer

[stephaniec]

I hate to be a Debbie downer , but I really wish age and beauty were left out of this equation as to whether or not transition is possible or practical   or non laughable . I cringe and have the desire to go back to my crying episodes every time age and beauty is brought up. I guess I should be ticketed for going past twice the legal limit for age and bombshell. I'm pushing 64 and I may not look like Raquel Welch at 74 ,but I think I do pretty damn good if only in my own eyes . Any way I think therapy is your best move.

[rachel89]

So I think you are transgender, but transgender is really a spectrum instead of a black-or-white-type of thing. I am a transsexual because I have very intense dysphoria, I find many of my masculine features (including mannerisms and voice) to be very disturbing to my self image of who I am, I start to feel like myself instead of some alien from another planet when I go en femme, and I am also seeking medical treatment. If you ae a CD and have some kind of a fetish, you are still trans because you are expressing a deeply rooted aspect of your gender through your sexuality. You are still welcome here, even if you are a transvestic fetishist and not a transsexual (in this case you the crossdressers forum might be more helpful). It's probably best to talk with a therapist though, because you could still be a transsexual and it would be better to explore this aspect of who you are than to just dismiss it.

[Devlyn]

We're getting plenty of opinions on fetishes, let's try some facts.

Transvestic fetishism, fetishistic transvestism and sometimes transvestism are also often used to describe any sexual behaviour or arousal which is in any way connected to clothes of the other gender. Especially the latter is problematic, because transvestism and cross-dressing are neither a sexual fetish, nor do they necessarily have anything to do with sexual behaviour or arousal.

https://www.susans.org/wiki/Transvestic_fetishism

[Rachel]

I think you definitely would benefit from seeing a gender therapist to find out what you want or need to do.

As far as age, I think you are fine to transition but a doctor needs to review labs to provide guidance.

[kittenpower]

Well, if You can choose between those two and crossdressing would actually work for You, then that road is definitely easier, cheaper and there are less health risks and emotional roller coasters involved.

I definitely agree, do the least amount that is necessary. Best wishes

[Mariah]

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[sparrow]

...transvestism and cross-dressing are neither a sexual fetish, nor do they necessarily have anything to do with sexual behaviour or arousal.

True, true.  My experience (which I'm told is pretty common) began with fetish cross-dressing.  After a couple of swings at that, I started to suspect that it was more than a fetish, and I pretty quickly ceased being aroused by cross-dressing.  Now, it's just a thing I do to keep the dysphoria down.

[robynharvard]

Because you "get so aroused when I visualize myself ", this is a clear indication of this being a sexual fetish for you.  I am similar.  I have been married over 40 years and crossdressing my whole life (65). When my wife is away, I think "oh boy, I can dress 24/7", but I end up not doing it is.  I do dress for a while, have a great orgasm, then end up being comfortable in my male personna and clothes for the rest of the week.  I thought about transitioning, but this would take way the great sexual stimulation I get in seeing myself as a woman.  I have come to the realization that although the fantasy of living 24/7 is a great turn-on, it is not what I really want to do.  I think from your comments you are in the same boat.

[Wild Flower]

I don't get arouse thinking of myself as female. Nope. I dont actively crossdress either. If anything I may get horny by my butt (but in guymode in a pair of shorts)... but its like looking at it 3rd person like.

Yadda yadda....

I think youre a candidate for cd.

Never in my life... I wanted to be a bombshell sex object.... AT worst a Marilyn Monroe wannabee when Im depress.... but what cisgirl dont respect Monroe the person.