Which gender atracts you romantically as a MTF

[Eva Marie]

I used to think that I was only attracted to women but then as I got further into transition I started noticing that there are some REALLY cute guys out there

So I guess that i'm attracted to "people" - especially anyone that connects with me emotionally and can hold an intelligent conversation about anything and everything. Their body configuration doesn't matter that much to me.

[Zedan]

I don't know if it's Aspergers speaking or what, but I'm just done with sexual involvement. I do not want to have sex, and quite frankly it grosses me out being that close to someone of either gender. Hugging is awkward enough thank you, I do not need the weirdness of getting undressed to boot. Even romantically you have to get to know me extremely well for me to be receptive to any ques. So yea, put me down as asexual with a mild preference toward women because they seem to understand me a bit better.

[amber roskamp]

As far as dating I would definitely say women with slight preferences towards other trans women. I can myself dating a trans man too, but I never think of cis men in romantic ways. I am sexually attracted to any gender.

Most often I am attracted to cis girls but if I am attracted to a trans girl I tend to be really attracted to her.

[enigmaticrorschach]

As far as dating I would definitely say women with slight preferences towards other trans women. I can myself dating a trans man too, but I never think of cis men in romantic ways. I am sexually attracted to any gender.

Most often I am attracted to cis girls but if I am attracted to a trans girl I tend to be really attracted to her.

eep, your just like me xD I tend to get highly attached.
after my ex girlfriend is giving me the run around, I can't see myself with anyone which is sad

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[marsh monster]

I'm not really attracted to any gender romantically. I learned my lesson years ago....

[Devlyn]

It turns out that I'm bisexual, only recently discovered it, though.

[Jill F]

I used to think that I was only attracted to women but then as I got further into transition I started noticing that there are some REALLY cute guys out there

So I guess that i'm attracted to "people" - especially anyone that connects with me emotionally and can hold an intelligent conversation about anything and everything. Their body configuration doesn't matter that much to me.

^This^

What's between one's ears is important to me, not what's between one's legs.

[Dena]

The first 30 years of my life I was so messed up that sex was the last thing I wanted to get involved in. Most of the rest of my live I had companionship with my roommate and as sex didn't enter in to it,  I didn't desire a sexual partner. Just now thinking about it for the first time, I guess I can see myself in either relationship and enjoying it but I don't have the drive to be in a sexual relationship. I guess I can continue to use the term Asexual. The question for me should be how many people around age 60 want to take a 63 year amateur to bed with them when there are so many others out there that are much more skilled at the art of love making.

[Jayne]

MEN!!

I've always been attracted to men and that feeling has increased tenfold since starting on E.
Just recently it seems that every other man I meet sets my senses on fire, I just catch a whiff of them and. . . . dammit I need a cold shower again!!
I think I've been a singleton for too long

[stephaniec]

MEN!!

I've always been attracted to men and that feeling has increased tenfold since starting on E.
Just recently it seems that every other man I meet sets my senses on fire, I just catch a whiff of them and. . . . dammit I need a cold shower again!!
I think I've been a singleton for too long

Estrogen does the same thing to me. I've always been bi, but the longer I'm on estrogen the sweeter men look.

[Jayne]

Estrogen does the same thing to me. I've always been bi, but the longer I'm on estrogen the sweeter men look.

. . . . and smell. . . . and feel. . . . . and taste. . . . dammit I need another ice cold shower!! Damn this topic!!!!!

[valkiacrimson]

I like the idea of being with someone because of their heart, but am still confused about what I really want.

I know I don't want to be the 'man' in the relationship, but I do find myself more attracted physically to feminine people.

Being pre everything though, I feel like everything, especially love and sex, are on hold. Love just isn't really an option for me right now, not that I don't want it, I'm actually extremely lonely and love starved.

It's just, I have found it impossible to find someone else who would want to be with me at this stage. I look like a guy, but want to be a girl, and plan on becoming one.

I just have no idea how to find someone who would want that, or be ok with it :/

[Devlyn]

The first 30 years of my life I was so messed up that sex was the last thing I wanted to get involved in. Most of the rest of my live I had companionship with my roommate and as sex didn't enter in to it,  I didn't desire a sexual partner. Just now thinking about it for the first time, I guess I can see myself in either relationship and enjoying it but I don't have the drive to be in a sexual relationship. I guess I can continue to use the term Asexual. The question for me should be how many people around age 60 want to take a 63 year amateur to bed with them when there are so many others out there that are much more skilled at the art of love making.

I'm 53, I am an amateur as you described,  and I just found someone who is doing exactly that with me. He's kind, patient, and we go at my pace. Put the shoe on the other foot for a minute. If you met someone you were interested in, and you were the pro rather than the amateur, would you decide that there was no chance of a relationship? I think at our age most people have developed a lot of patience and understanding. There's someone for everyone, I believe that. You just have to find them, and more often than not, fate throws people together. Go out there and have fun!

Hugs, Devlyn

[Dodie]

women 100%  I just cant stand most the men around me behave. most of the men in my life seem like giant man childs

LOL Teela true..
But for me its Men men men men.. for now.. I like men but have never been with one.  I really want to find a guy but could take time.. a long time.. I will admit up front I am trans.. no secrets so I am sure I will get rejected  a lot.. but I want an open and real relationship.
Oh please god help me find the right one... one day.. after GRS of course.!!
Dodie

[Dena]

I'm 53, I am an amateur as you described,  and I just found someone who is doing exactly that with me. He's kind, patient, and we go at my pace. Put the shoe on the other foot for a minute. If you met someone you were interested in, and you were the pro rather than the amateur, would you decide that there was no chance of a relationship? I think at our age most people have developed a lot of patience and understanding. There's someone for everyone, I believe that. You just have to find them, and more often than not, fate throws people together. Go out there and have fun!

Hugs, Devlyn

My people and social skills are pretty messed up as well. People might have called me shy when I was young but by the time I hit grade school the girls went their way and I didn't have any interest in sports. The only friends I had were the outcast and when puberty hit that was pretty much the end of it until about age 28 and I found the correct treatment program. Even after surgery I remained uncomfortable in new social environments but my roommate somewhat broke me of that by doing portable vending. Some places I had to deal with 3000 to 4000 people walking through our trailer in a ten day period. It helped but I still had my comfort zone of the trailer and I still have to force my self to meet a new person. To think about going after somebody for a sexual relationship, that is way out of my comfort zone and while I want to get back in the world after the death of my roommate, I am not sure what i want is a sexual relationship. I know now I want to set out in a new direction and make some changes in my life but I am not sure what those changes should be. All of you are dealing with an issue that few people have where I am dealing with some that's pretty common. Is that and indication I have become normal. Oh my god, I don't want to be normal.

[Jasper93]

I'm sure this question has been asked before in one form or another. Seeing the subject of likes and dislikes of certain attractions in regards to how there are different reactions depending on gender I thought I'd put up a poll of our little community.

Men -- mainly because they make me feel more effeminate than would a woman.

[.Christy]

men 100%

i've heard stories of people's sexuality changing on hrt though @_@

[Jayne]

men 100%

i've heard stories of people's sexuality changing on hrt though @_@

When I first came out I readily identified as bi. I was with a woman for 8yrs & for the first few years I loved her & worshipped the ground she walked on, however I never really enjoyed what went on in the bedroom.
After we split I did some serious soul searching & concluded that i'd become attracted to the male side of her personality, she took on the "traditional" male roles in the relationship & I was more than happy to let her.
It wasn't until a woman I knew who was very feminine said she was hoping that i'd be her first lesbian encounter after my transition that I had to re-examine my sexuality as even pre hrt I recoiled at the thought.

I'll never rule out the idea of being in a relationship with a woman as it has happened once before but I feel that it's highly unlikely & should it happen then I think the relationship would be more a meeting of minds than a meeting of other parts.

[rachel89]

I'm bisexual (trans* included). Romantically, I prefer femininity, but I could possibly see myself in a relationship with a more feminine male. Sexually, I'm more into guys right now, but I don't think I would really consider a having a long term relationship with a really masculine guy.

[Pony]

I put bisexual because I'm assuming that was the option for "both"?

Lately it's been more in the male department. Sorry chica's, but like the last 30 some years I've been with women sexually, I'm feeling let down in the excitement and creativity department in the bedroom. Media always talks about how men should learn find the 'softer side' of themselves, but FFS from my perspective I think a lot of women need to start buying power tools and wearing construction boots.

A guy is like a puppy you can train and that's super excited with a few choice commands that'll do anything to please you, while the women have essentially treated me like a living vibrator. Want the same thing, the same time, get rid of their stress, and let em go to sleep afterwards. I know it's weird. All the women I'm with act like men... just get me off so I can goto sleep! GRRR!! What the hell happened to 2-4 hour sex bouts and having multiple orgasms in a night?