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lipsaredelicious · May 27, 2015, 05:14:35 AM

Hi everyone,

I'm new here.

Realised I'm very probably transgender MtF about five weeks ago. Suddenly hit by the realisation as I was coming up to my 45th birthday! Lots of things in my life that I'd done suddenly made sense.

Anyway, still questioning to be sure, just started seeing a therapist so I have someone to talk to. No-one else in real life knows, including family, etc.

Erm, that's me. A tiny bit of me anyway.

Oh, I spent a bit of time on other forums, which is very friendly. Not all that many middle-aged people there in comparison to here, though, it seems - it would be good to discuss things with people who have discovered this about themselves when they already have spouses/children.

My username is from that Cerys Matthews/Tom Jones duet, you know, 'Baby, it's cold outside'.

I'll stop rabbiting on randomly, so hello again.

katrinaw · May 27, 2015, 05:34:21 AM

Hi lipsaredelicious

Welcome to Susan's,

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Sometimes its hard to pinpoint exactly... quite often there are little signs through life, other times, not... just bang and your there... Glad you are seeing professional help, well worth it...

Look forward to seeing you about the forums

L Katy

V M · May 27, 2015, 05:58:43 AM

Hi Lips

Welcome to Susan's

Glad to have you here, join on in the fun but listing other forums by name is not allowed

Hugs

V M

Mariah · May 27, 2015, 07:38:27 AM

Hi Lips, welcome to Susan's. I look forward to seeing you around the forums so jump right in. Good luck and Hugs.
Mariah

lipsaredelicious · May 27, 2015, 07:47:37 AM

Thanks for the welcome, all.

No worries about editing my post to remove that site name - if I'd known the rule, I wouldn't have posted it!

Mariah · May 27, 2015, 08:15:02 AM

No worries. You had no way of knowing before. It's why we share the rules with you. Hugs
Mariah

katrinaw · May 27, 2015, 08:18:05 AM

Quote from: lipsaredelicious on May 27, 2015, 07:47:37 AM
Thanks for the welcome, all.

No worries about editing my post to remove that site name - if I'd known the rule, I wouldn't have posted it!

No problem, I understand the dilemma there... thanks for understanding

L Katy

Jacqueline · May 27, 2015, 11:08:13 AM

lipsaredelicious,

I am 50 and just had a similar realization. Started time with a therapist in January. I just came out as MTF to my wife of many years. We are still together and not sure where this will all land or how far I need to go to maintain and keep dysphoria at bay. Other than my therapist and a safe friend that was a practice run, I am only out to this community here. It is very friendly and supportive here.

Let me know if I can be of support.

With warm and loving thoughts,

Joanna

TorieE · May 27, 2015, 12:22:09 PM

Hi Lips!

I am 47 and am exploring things myself. Everyone around me told me I was more female than male, so evidently they saw things I did not. I am in therapy (have been for 2 years for other reasons) now, exploring this side of me. I am married and have a daughter who does not know about this. My 2 sisters do, along with the wife. And though I have been wandering around as a woman for the last 3 weeks, nobody in my neighborhood really has noticed yet. Things will get interesting when they do.

Anyway, welcome.

Torie

cindy16 · May 27, 2015, 12:46:16 PM

Hi,

Welcome to Susan's!
It's good that you are already seeing a therapist, as it can help you figure out the way ahead.

See you around,
Cindy

Dena · May 27, 2015, 01:03:11 PM

45 years old? That was a Looonnnngggg time ago

Welcome to the form and let us know if you need anything and I hope you have a good time here. I find it interesting that people figure it out so late in life. In my case the signs where there very early but I did't figure it out until puberty forced the issue.

Rachel · May 27, 2015, 08:06:51 PM

Welcome to Susan's.

I am 52, married and have a child.

lipsaredelicious · May 28, 2015, 05:34:04 AM

Thanks, Joanna.

All a bit crazy in the head at the moment but starting to settle down a bit!

Quote from: Joanna50 on May 27, 2015, 11:08:13 AM
lipsaredelicious,

I am 50 and just had a similar realization. Started time with a therapist in January. I just came out as MTF to my wife of many years. We are still together and not sure where this will all land or how far I need to go to maintain and keep dysphoria at bay. Other than my therapist and a safe friend that was a practice run, I am only out to this community here. It is very friendly and supportive here.

Let me know if I can be of support.

With warm and loving thoughts,

Joanna

lipsaredelicious · May 28, 2015, 05:35:51 AM

Hi Torie

Sounds like you're at the start of a very interesting journey!

Quote from: TorieE on May 27, 2015, 12:22:09 PM
Hi Lips!

I am 47 and am exploring things myself. Everyone around me told me I was more female than male, so evidently they saw things I did not. I am in therapy (have been for 2 years for other reasons) now, exploring this side of me. I am married and have a daughter who does not know about this. My 2 sisters do, along with the wife. And though I have been wandering around as a woman for the last 3 weeks, nobody in my neighborhood really has noticed yet. Things will get interesting when they do.

Anyway, welcome.

Torie

lipsaredelicious · May 28, 2015, 05:37:08 AM

Thanks Cindy. Yep, second appointment today. Feels like a loooooooooong time since last week.

Quote from: cindy16 on May 27, 2015, 12:46:16 PM
Hi,

Welcome to Susan's!
It's good that you are already seeing a therapist, as it can help you figure out the way ahead.

See you around,
Cindy

lipsaredelicious · May 28, 2015, 05:38:20 AM

In my case, looking back, signs were there since about 11 years old - but never put 2 and 2 together.

Quote from: Dena on May 27, 2015, 01:03:11 PM
45 years old? That was a Looonnnngggg time ago Welcome to the form and let us know if you need anything and I hope you have a good time here. I find it interesting that people figure it out so late in life. In my case the signs where there very early but I did't figure it out until puberty forced the issue.

lipsaredelicious · May 28, 2015, 05:40:14 AM

Hi Cynthia

It was reading your long thread and story on the other board that made me sign up and say hello.

Quote from: Cynthia Michelle on May 27, 2015, 08:06:51 PM
Welcome to Susan's.

I am 52, married and have a child.

Rachel · May 28, 2015, 08:01:31 PM

Wow, I am glad the posts helped. I am still a work in progress and have a long way to go.

You are brave and have taken the hardest step, getting started.

Anastazja · May 28, 2015, 10:25:09 PM

Welcome!!! I am 31 and have recently been getting a little down about figuring this out so far along in my life, but everyone here is such an inspiration and I truly believe you have come to the right place!! It seems like there is no right or wrong time to have your revelation, I think what really matters is that you listen to the call when it comes. Best of luck on your exploration and I wish you the very best!

-Ana

lipsaredelicious · May 29, 2015, 12:16:13 PM

Thanks Anastajza. Love that 'z' in your name!

Quote from: Anastazja on May 28, 2015, 10:25:09 PM
Welcome!!! I am 31 and have recently been getting a little down about figuring this out so far along in my life, but everyone here is such an inspiration and I truly believe you have come to the right place!! It seems like there is no right or wrong time to have your revelation, I think what really matters is that you listen to the call when it comes. Best of luck on your exploration and I wish you the very best!

-Ana

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