( Trigger Warning)How many family and friends have you lost because your trans

[Marissa_K]

There was one friend who seemed very uncomfortable talking about my transition. It made talking with her awkward since it's hard to tell what's going on with me without mentioning some aspect of my transition. We're still friends, but not as close. So I guess my answer would be "a half".

I have a friend like that as well. The subject puts her at unease..... She means really well but she just doesn't get it. Can't seem to figure out why I would want to go from a "good looking male" to an "ugly female and a social outcast".

My brother was very cool with everything until his wife told him that my transitioning is immoral and godless:). I was hoping to lose her but she's still around....

[StrykerXIII]

When I came out, I had to cut off over half my family for verbally attacking me. The only members I still talk to are my own parents, my FtM brother (well duh he's gonna be cool with it haha), my uncle, and every now and again I hear from my grandmother, though that's rare. As far as friends, I don't really know how many I lost. I posted every day for a week straight that I would be changing to a new Facebook profile, and that anyone asking to follow me there could message me for the new name. So I didn't really pay attention to it...though I can safely say most of my male friends stopped talking to me.

[stephaniec]

It's pretty funny, there's that web site that posts your name and picture of everyone you went to High School with, When I changed my Facebook to my real picture I change that picture too. I'm waiting for any comments on my new picture from people I went to high scool with.

[Jerri]

Hi I  am in the over 10 club, at number 2 of 11 kids I have 2 sisters who will talk to me and are supportive. My dad has accepted me 2 aunts from a 5 person family are supportive, only one friend from living in this area for twenty five years. I have met many new people who we  hang out with to fill those voids. the  biggest loss is my daughter and three grandkids her husband finds this totally unacceptable to expose his kids to and has isolated me from that family, of course my exwife has fueled that flame along. the reality is that I am starting over very much for the better and honestly without regret

[Sophie Lou]

My long-distance family relationships are mostly unsupportive. I have 1 sister who is really trying her best.
I have 2 other older sisters that have pretty much stopped all contact. They have families so it's really sad. They will contact me via text every blue moon to say happy holidays etc, but rarely ask me a single question about anything.

My dad was really trying because he was concerned for my safety, I believe.
He broke my trust though by saying some really hurtful and emotionally abusive things on the phone, so I'm not speaking with him.

My family is very dysfunctional and distrustful of one another. Although people pretend everything is fine...
When I ask for support family becomes defensive, attacks me, or ignores me.

I had a fire burn down my apartment and took all of my possessions and cat about 6 months ago. Nobody bothered to visit me.

I am grateful for my one sister who has opened her heart.


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[ashley_thomas]

I've lost my mom and my brother but that's it so far. I'm pretty much done with social transition outside of work, we'll see about clients and colleagues soon.




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[Jenna Marie]

None, unless you count a couple friends I deliberately lost touch with b/c they were annoying (for non-transition reasons). I will forever feel guilty that my wife was disowned by her entire family - including most of her extended family - for staying with me, though.

[iKate]

Dad stopped talking to me, a couple of gay men who were friends with me stopped talking to me, and I lost a couple of friends because I didn't like them gossiping. I would say about six.

[KimSails]

I lost my two teenage daughters.  I've not told them anything about me being transgender (yet). Their mother, my ex-wife, says that she's not told them either - though I doubt that.  Still, my daughters up and refused to see me as of last October.  Hearing from their mother about me being trans seems like the most likely reason.

Other than my daughters, which has been devastating, I've not lost anyone -- extended family, my wife, in-law family, friends, and co-workers have all been generally supportive.  Many have been very supportive.

Kim

[stephaniec]

That's always so sad to hear of when children are lost by being trans.

[natashaX]

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[thatonegirlroxx]

It's been a lovely 2 years since I've come out to family and friends, and "lovely" is the opposite of what I actually mean.

I have lost friends left and right for being me, and out of (say about 20 close friends) I only have 6 left. It has definitely put a major strain on my relationship with who is left, as before my transition we shared the same "friend-pool" and now things just get awkward anytime I'm brought into the equation.

As for my family, they were my real best friends. (I'm 1 of 12, being the middle child.) Only 2 sisters actively support me, and the rest either turn their "undisturbed" ear to me, or they've went out of their way to tell me how wrong it is what I'm doing. My mother started out telling me I had a mental disease and I could not be her daughter, but now has turned around  A LOT and tells me she's glad I came out, and that she was sorry that she didn't see the daughter she always had but couldn't admit it. Now my dad is the opposite...in the way that in initially accepting his "son" become his daughter, he learned a few things about who I really am and was proactive for the first month of my outing. It only got worse and worse and to this day I know it isn't getting any better almost 2 years later. He (currently) dismisses any concerns I have about my safety, or requests for his advice, and even any mention of being his daughter as being "part of the hormones" or "You're just being paranoid". I can't mention anything related to transition, because the answer to it is: "I don't want to hear it."

Look at me rant! Sorry if I went off topic! TL:DR, I've lost a few of the "good ones", and it's been a tough journey so far.