Caught wearing women's jeans.

[rachel89]

So I was wearing a pretty androgynous outfit today. Very tight women's jeans, a tank top, a men's button up shirt, and some sandals. Well anyways, my mom noticed my jeans, I told her they were just skinny jeans and we had a minor argument over it. She said she's not sure how she feels about them, and I kind of ended up telling her that I don't care how she feels about them. We have a long history of pretty nasty arguments over just about anything. The jeans were not well received, I'm really wondering how coming out will go.

[sparrow]

She said she's not sure how she feels about them, and I kind of ended up telling her that I don't care how she feels about them.

You go, girl!  I'd keep on wearing those jeans, on the reasoning that you've already had the fight, and they're "established" as part of your wardrobe.  You might be careful to do your own laundry.  Parents are notorious for stealing clothes that they disapprove of.

Sometimes, people can be sexist (she thinks of you as male, and males aren't "allowed" to wear those clothes), but when they realize that you're trans, and understand what that means, they'll be perfectly understanding.  You don't describe your mom as "perfectly understanding"... but with time, she could be.

You might try something along the lines of "I'm going to wear what I want to wear, and you don't get teen fashion any more than your mom did," if that was relevant in her life.  That might not make coming out any easier, but it might take a little pressure off of the clothes thing.  And the clothes thing might make coming out "make sense".

[Katiepie]

It's kinda like the story of my adorable pea coat.

So at work I had a task to box up old stuff. I came across the coats, and was like I WANT ONE IN MY LIFE. So i bought it. Later that day, when I got home, (I'm staying with my mom for now, so while I go to school, up until I move to Michigan for university) I showed my mom the adorableness, and she asked "Is that a guys jacket or girls jacket?"
I told her, "It's a pea coat, and does it really matter?"
Not really any argument past that.

[rachel89]

Thanx, but I'm 26 , not a teenager.

[sparrow]

I'm so sorry... she's treating you like a teenager, not an adult, so I just assumed... 

[suzifrommd]

Thanx, but I'm 26 , not a teenager.

I think you're headed in the right direction by just ignoring her. If she tries to get you into the argument, can you refuse to take the bait?

[rachel89]

Don't worry it's okay, I would love to be a lot younger, but its just a little more complex when I never wore women's jeans around my parents before.

[Audrey_Marie]

Wear the jeans hun, wear what makes YOU comfortable. Speaking of which... I need some new jeans

But seriously though, she will come around. Just make sure you are adamant in your stance.