Acceptance

[MaryXYX]

A little bit like "You know you pass when ..."
This isn't passing, it's about being accepted as a woman by people who know you are a t-woman but don't care.

Last night I was at a concert at my church and as we were preparing one of the young women was having difficulty with the top button of her top.  It is hard to fasten a toggle when you have one usable hand.  So she turned to the nearest woman to fasten it for her.  That was me.

[Ms Grace]

When a female colleague at my old job started telling me about some of her "lady problems" and the size of her boobs I knew I was accepted.

[Rachel]

That experience sounds wonderful. Some day I hope to know the feeling.

[suzifrommd]

Was talking with a lady from my church about the difference between men and woman. We were comparing notes about men, and she said something about being surprised that I knew so much about men. I reminded her that I used to be one, and she said something like "oh, yeah, I forgot that."

[iKate]

Was talking with a lady from my church about the difference between men and woman. We were comparing notes about men, and she said something about being surprised that I knew so much about men. I reminded her that I used to be one, and she said something like "oh, yeah, I forgot that."

Haha that is awesome.

[MaryXYX]

Shortly after transition I went to a few gatherings of a local Asperger group.  Unlike most Aspie groups which are nearly all young men this was all middle aged women.  I came out to them at the end of the first gathering - much to their surprise.  Anyway ...

At the end of one of the gatherings one of the other women and I headed off to the washroom.  She was chattering away - even worse than me - and went on chattering as we sat down in adjacent stalls.

[Tessa James]

My favorite was when talking with a friend, who has known me before and after transition, about pregnancy.  I mentioned that I would like to have experienced giving birth but had an undeveloped uterus.  She looked confused and concerned and asked me, "what happened to your uterus."   I could not help but laugh and say, "Peggy, remember that guy named Jim?"  Then we both gotta good laugh.

And then there are the 'almost got it right' situations that suggest some acceptance.  Today I walked by my favorite bicycle shop where the guys know me and one of the guys gave me a thumbs up and says, "you are so looking good, dude."  I laughed and my too slow response occurred to me later....thank you ma'am.