Trans Hate

[Hopefull]

I have always looked at my parents who are hurt by my "choice" with confusion. I am FTM and my whole family is hurt by it apparently. All I can think is "why?"
"You are hurting everyone by doing this"
Me: "Why?"
Something I may not ever understand just like they cannot understand me.
I must ask, why do people have problems with transgendered people? The hate towards us is honestly REALLY confusing me.

There is probably a thread on this I just don't know where...

[Yenneffer]

Similar problem my grandad does not like the idea of me having breasts

[Dena]

If they still think you are choosing this life style, the message isn't getting though some how. It is very hard to explain to people how we feel when we wake up in the morning and the body isn't right. We are the only people who truly understand the feeling. The best I have been able to do is describe a body opposite of their body asking them how they would feel if that were there body. Most of the time it really doesn't work all that well. Thankfully many medical people do get it and are able to provide what we need.

i don't know if you have taken this approach yet, but look at this link and see if it will help
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Causes_of_transsexualism

I have seen the hate as well when posting on other web sites. Most often that is ignorance or fear that our ideas would contaminate them. Some are into the literal interpretation of the bible while living in sin themselves. It is an irrational world out there and sometimes I wonder if we are the only sane ones.

[suzifrommd]

I must ask, why do people have problems with transgendered people? The hate towards us is honestly REALLY confusing me.

I think people have a need to put everyone in boxes. It makes figuring everything out much simpler. "You're a man, so you don't ask for directions, hate shopping, and feel protective." "You're a woman, so you like clothes and make-up, can't do math, and need everything explained to you."

Anything that turns that on its head - that things they thought they could count on being true about men/woman turns out not to be true - makes it much more complicated.

Many people can deal with complexity, but those who can't, often have one of two reactions. (1) They turn away and try to ignore the complexity (if you want to be a guy, go ahead, but I don't want to know about it), or (2) they try to control the situation (like telling you you're hurting people).

Does that all make sense?

[Hopefull]

Interesting answers. That helps a bit. Thank you.

[natashaX]

Theories
The rise of hatred middle ages
Religion made us witches for male gain

Discrimination
  People talk to men and woman differantly
They dont have protocol mansplain or equal?

Latent homos
Maybe they are turned on by you

Gang mentality
Monkey see monkey do

And my best
  Majority of men are glass spines
   A man is one of the most delicate flowers
    They almost are never self defining
      For they get their breeder and man badge by what orhers think
        These ones are volatile and will attack to prove
   A real man

[Ms Grace]

I've said this elsewhere, but you don't hurt anyone by being trans. If people say they are hurt by you being yourself it is because they are choosing to have a hateful, selfish and small minded response... that is what is hurting them. They could be happy for you and supportive and they wouldn't be "hurt", but being angry and hateful just reflects right back on themselves and does hurt them.

[FreyasRedemption]

natashaX said it.
Gang mentality. Mainstream opinion states that something is wrong, people start thinking the same way because the don't want to be left out of the group. In reality, most of these people don't even know why they hate us in the first place. They just cling onto excuses like "it's unnatural" or "it's against the will of God" even though they clearly don't know much about the Bible and even less about nature, because they don't want to think about it.

[Mariah]

I agree with Grace. You don't hurt anyone by being trans. They can choose to act hurt, but that is of their doing and not yours. Your choosing to live and do something about your problems instead of doing nothing and if they can't understand that then it's their problem and not yours. Hugs
Mariah

[runaway]

To them, you have a made a conscious, avoidable "lifestyle choice", which causes them embarrassment and social ostracization. They don't understand that it's not a choice to have been born transgender, and they conflate your choice to live in congruence with your gender identity, as a choice to "become transgender".

They have no frame of reference, being cisgender, so explain your actions from their cisgender point of view.

The conclusion to them, being that you are making a selfish decision. Rather than question society's ignorance and transphobia, it's easier for them to blame you for going against common wisdom, that the transgender condition is a mental delusion.

It's a horrible situation to be in, but I try to understand it by remembering how I too, blamed myself for being transgender rather than question society's ignorance and transphobia.

Stay strong! You're not alone.