Help people hitting on me.

[ChristineHaylett]

I could use some advice I'm getting a lot of attention on websites like Facebook were people keep telling me I'm hot despite me feeling ugly, they have asked me out and some wanting to set me up with their friends. It's a bit much for me could it be the make up ?, I noticed it started after I had a make up lesson. Im getting friend request from people I don't know who then ask me these questions.

I don't mind being looked up in streets but I seem be pulling some unwanted attention.

I don't think i feel ready for a relationship yet, im still funding my self.

[iKate]

It's going to happen regardless, especially if you're hot like you are.

I just politely decline. Telling people I'm married seems to help... but I'm guessing you're not.

Complete strangers I just ignore.

[Julia-Madrid]

Hi, yes, it's a bit unnerving at first... it's still a little odd a year after it started happening..

On social media, girl, you have the control, so use it.  Just because people are there doesn't mean that you need to allow them to pressure you.

As Kate said, make up a plausible story... that you are married, or if you clearly are out and about your town in an "unmarried" kind of way, say that you're recently divorced, living with some girlfriends, and really not ready for a relationship.  Most people leave you alone if you smile and say it firmly.

Good luck
Julia

[ChristineHaylett]

its a little uncomfortable, ill just tell them I'm not interested just wanted to know if this is normal, i don't think I'm pretty at all.

[Julia-Madrid]

its a little uncomfortable, ill just tell them I'm not interested just wanted to know if this is normal, i don't think I'm pretty at all.

Girlfriend, banish the self-doubt!   You may consider yourself to be a work-in-progress, but there are beautiful androgynous faces out there, yours is one of them, and there are many men who like such faces, just because it's a look that they like. 

My advice, when you're ready, is to embrace your transness and enjoy it.  Relish the new experiences and be proud of yourself!   

Before I had my FFS I got stopped a few times in the street by guys.  They weren't creeps, and strangely enough, I get stopped far less often now after FFS.

xxx
J

[ChristineHaylett]

Girlfriend, banish the self-doubt!   You may consider yourself to be a work-in-progress, but there are beautiful androgynous faces out there, yours is one of them, and there are many men who like such faces, just because it's a look that they like. 

My advice, when you're ready, is to embrace your transness and enjoy it.  Relish the new experiences and be proud of yourself!   

Before I had my FFS I got stopped a few times in the street by guys.  They weren't creeps, and strangely enough, I get stopped far less often now after FFS.

xxx
J

At least I know it's normal now thank you, I'm just not used to being told I'm pretty etc, that never happened to me before I came out and I guess I'm so shy just not used to it.

My wip is going well.
My electrolysis is going great, the lady today is wonderful she did a much better job compared to the other girls, she didn't even hurt me and got a lot more done in the hour. She said I'm much better at make up after Rebecca gave me the make up session , and she saw the after photo said I looked very pretty. If any one lives near Ely I recommend chic and body salon they are so helpful.

[Julia-Madrid]

Of course, if you look at it in a balanced light, your work-in-progress is probably going pretty well.  I tend to liken the first 6-8 months of my transition to having training wheels, but after a while you realise that it is totally unnecessary and you've outgrown those little wheels.

I do totally understand how you feel... I was a totally unremarkable person in my former gender - certainly not used to flirting and being flirted at.  Now, I find it just so much more agreeable to feel comfortable on both sides of the flirting thing.  You'll get there, and it will take much less effort than you think. 

Hugs
Julia

[.Christy]

If they are random strangers on fb then change your privacy settings.

[jessical]

You are beautiful, so it will happen.  Pretty soon you will get used to deleting, blocking and ignoring requests on facebook, just like any other hot girl

I'm shocked at the random friend requests I get from people completely unknown, and they do not leave a message.  I'm surprised they think they have a chance.

[stephaniec]

I had a cab driver say " hey good looking ", just enjoy the ride and protect yourself

[ChristineHaylett]

I had a cab driver say " hey good looking ", just enjoy the ride and protect yourself

How lovely that's really nice, it's the online ones that creep me out.

[Eva Marie]

You are very pretty so I see why you are having these problems. Women have to deal with this kind of attention all of the time unfortunately.

And I understand the discomfort you mentioned too. Like Julia I was very unremarkable looking in my previous life and soon after I went full time I got majorly hit on and it made me *very* uncomfortable because I never expected something like that to happen, it took me totally by surprise, I wasn't prepared for it, and I didn't know how to handle it. It gave me new respect for what women have had to put up with.

You might want to buy a fake wedding ring to deter some pick up attempts, and work out a plausible excuse/story for the guys that will ignore the ring.

[Mariah]

I get tones of requests from guys on facebook and Skype. Some I have flat denied the request and others have there requests siting to never be responded too. 13 of them right now. I wouldn't let it get to you. If they make you feel uncomfortable, then I would block them or at least deny the request. Hugs
Mariah

[ChristineHaylett]

You are very pretty so I see why you are having these problems. Women have to deal with this kind of attention all of the time unfortunately.

And I understand the discomfort you mentioned too. Like Julia I was very unremarkable looking in my previous life and soon after I went full time I got majorly hit on and it made me *very* uncomfortable because I never expected something like that to happen, it took me totally by surprise, I wasn't prepared for it, and I didn't know how to handle it. It gave me new respect for what women have had to put up with.

You might want to buy a fake wedding ring to deter some pick up attempts, and work out a plausible excuse/story for the guys that will ignore the ring.

I like the idea of that might just give that a try.

That's basically happening to me it has took me for surprise and now I feel sorry for women who get this all the time. When you read a lot online you don't really come across this so did not expect it. I'll take it as a complement then , just feels so strange.

[ChristineHaylett]

I get tones of requests from guys on facebook and Skype. Some I have flat denied the request and others have there requests siting to never be responded too. 13 of them right now. I wouldn't let it get to you. If they make you feel uncomfortable, then I would block them or at least deny the request. Hugs
Mariah

I'll have get a Facebook guide on how to block them lol, I'll start ignoring unknown people.

[Dodie]

It happens a lot.. I never friend someone who is not friends with many of mine. that way I can check them out with other ladies. 
There will come a time when a sincere relationship can happen.. did to me and its been so fun and I am putting him off until after GRS ... and if we meet will be in a safe neutral place.. be careful
Whats fun is you get used to being flattered and also flirting and it makes you feel more feminine.. like totally.  If you do find a guy who seems really serious check him out .. google his or her name.. does their employment match.. where they live match..  and even then they can be ->-bleeped-<-s and using someone's identity. 
You will find ways to test them.. Are pics sent in real time.. match them.. that kind of thing.. just be damn careful.. if they are real and care they will do what you want when it comes to meeting..
Dodie

[Zoetrope]

Go with the flow.

It's not any more abnormal for someone to have eyes for me, than it is for me to fancy somebody.

Or did that just come out all wrong ...

[Anna++]

I had this happen to me a couple of times.  I changed my Facebook privacy settings to be as strict as possible, and I haven't had an issue since.

[ChristineHaylett]

Had another one today who would not take no for answer, had my brother block him for me.

[Tessa James]

Welcome to the club Christine.  With all the attendant rights, privileges, and objectification there is an adjustment or learning curve.

I assume you know the term "trolls" for those special online stalkers who drool on their keyboards?

Leave em under the bridge and find yourself in real time.