Answers to some questions?

[Hecknado]

Hello
I am a 15 year old ftm, pre everything. Currently I am on a waiting list for the clinic in my area that works with trans people. My friend went through earlier, and is going on blockers soon. When I am 16 I am allowed to make my own decisions about testosterone, without my parents agreement.

I am still on the waiting list and every week I talk for an hour or two with a counsellor, basically exploring my thoughts and such so that I know I am definitely sure ( which I am ) that I would like to transition ( I am stealth at school btw ), and also put in some real thought about why, so when I do go to the clinic, I will be very sure of myself, and have no doubts.

One subject I'd like to know about, is why people de-transition, or transition and then commit suicide. If the system is as thorough as it has been explained to me by a doctor, then how does this happen?

Also, anyone got any advice on what to do if my dad is pretty against the idea, and says "that's not who you are" a lot?

Long post, sorry

Cheers, dave

[LordKAT]

Hi Dave,

I'm thinking that there are multiple reasons for detransition. One of them would be a person who lied to themselves and/or their therapist. Another possible reason is a person didn't realize what changes happen and the reaction they receive from others around them. The best way to not be one of them is to be honest with yourself, your therapist and anticipate the bad reactions that could happen so that you can deal with it when it does.

[Laura_7]

People are individual.

Some people simply know and are completely sure.

Others try some reversible steps first, or start hrt slowly to see how it makes them feel.

Some people say one in four hundred persons is transgender. So there are quite a few people, and there are some among them who would have done things differently. Don't forget that the vast majority is approving.

Further reasons might be too high expectations... dreams of how it would be nicer going back... and people saying so... I'd say simply listen to your inner voice then...

here are a few thoughts that could help:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,180045.msg1658077.html#msg1658077

I personally like the twin explanation... people will be like their male/female twin, with the same sense of humour...

and concerning dads, well it might be a possibliity to say that some girly stuff is not for you... you like more manly stuff... and do it together with him...
of course only if you like that and have a good feeling with it... well you know them best so its up to you what you say... and if it even makes sense .
Just take your time and think about it.

And you cou could have a look at this:
acceptingdad dot com/2013/08/05/to-the-unicorns-dad/
This is emotional stuff... if you feel like it call or chat on one of the helplines...
for example glbthotline.org/hotline.html or translifeline.org
(Yet I don't like some of the comments, they talk about hurdles instead of the relief and that many people have made a successful transition and simply feel better. And many people say especially the younger generation is more accepting. )


Points imo could be:
would you like a bit more male body to be happy ?

And you do not have to feel male all the time.

How would you like to be perceived ?


hugs

[Hecknado]

thanks for the advice