for those who have lost family, have you been able to forgive and move on

[stephaniec]

I'm realizing how difficult it is to lose people. I don't have family that I acknowledge which is fine and doesn't bother me much except when I have to go to the hospital like I just did a few days ago for an operation. It's the one time in my life that bums me out because I have to go through the inquisition about having someone to take care of me in order to release me from the hospital or the inevitable why don't you have anyone? I had a niece that found me on Facebook a couple of years ago then found out I'm trans and said goodbye without using those words, but just not communicating with me any more. I'm cool with it all because I view myself as a tough little camper. My therapist is my friend and I depend on her a lot. Is it hard for others to move on when family rejects you for being trans or are you able to overcome with inner strength and self love.

[LordKAT]

I guess it didn't matter on forgiveness because I didn't assign them any blame. They are who they are. They may still come around, but, even if they don't, as long as I can live my life and they live theirs. I'm OK. It still hurt but it will pass.

[stephaniec]

normally I just live my life, but whenever I have to deal with the hospital and being admitted and the 20 questions of why I have no family , it awakens the pain. I continue and live my life, it's just those moments that cause pain. I ended up yelling at one hospital person because they couldn't comprehend that I had no family.

[LordKAT]

Never had a hassle about that, I just told them to contact a friend or brought the friend with.

For that matter, you can claim anyone as family medical wise. They don't check and take your word for it.

[stephaniec]

I guess I'm unique , I have no one except God.

[stephaniec]

I guess it would be pretty cool though if God showed up to take me home from the hospital

[LordKAT]

That it would.

[stephaniec]

That it would.

your making me laugh too hard my surgery wound is killing me every time I laugh

[LordKAT]

OH no! ...but I heard that laughter is good medicine.

[stephaniec]

I think in this situation I prefer morphine

[LordKAT]

I can understand that. I've had more than my share of major surgeries.  Sadly, not one related to transition.

[stephaniec]

at least I get an idea of the pain I'd encounter. it feels like they ripped apart all my stomach muscles and sewed them back together backwards.

[LordKAT]

Ye, it felt like I had to hold the guts together when I would go walking.