have you ever felt jealousy towards another trans person

[iKate]

I'm also jealous of those born in states where they can change every last document including their birth certificate.

[Jacqueline]

Both Swayallday and Carrie Liz have nailed it pretty well.

Absolutely I have felt that. Then I have a little pity party. Then I remember how depressed I was 7 months ago not knowing why this has been like this my whole  life. Just thinking something was wrong with me. Thinking I was just a pervert.

Now, I am barely on my journey but can put a name to it and define why I have felt so out of everything my whole life. I am so much easier to be around  (my wife says so with a little trepidation) and I can approach life in a happier way. Just that. Not trying to get to happy but being happy as I continue. However it turns out. I still have moments of pitying myself when I see all you pretty things and knowing how far I have to go and that I can't go back 30 or 40 years...

But it is better. I can see alternatives to darkness now that I couldn't before.

Wishing you all smooth journeys,

Joanna

[Mariah]

My jealousy mainly centered around the points of someone transitioning and my not being in a position to at one point. Then after starting of those who were on hormones while I had to wait to see the Endo to get on them. As others have said, I think we all do get jealous of others it's a fairly natural response. Hugs
Mariah

[PhoenixGurl2016]

Undoubtedly I have envy towards those who transition at a younger age and/or look more "passable", I also however have envy towards Cis women for being able to have children, curves, etc. Like it was mentioned before, It is perfectly normal to have envy no matter if you are tran, cis, male, female, etc. I have met some ladies who I envy and I am sure that I am a focus of someone's else envy. The key is for it not to limit you or let it harm how your live. Let it push you but don't let it dictate what you should be like. We are all unique, like who you are. 🙂

[Rachel]

Absolutely and it is 100% normal.

[CarlyMcx]

Sometimes I envy Jazz Jennings.  I wish I could have transitioned as a child, with enlightened parents and the somewhat tolerant society we have now (as opposed to dark ages of the 1970's and 1980's that I grew up in).

I don't know that it would be a lot of fun to be a transgender teen girl even in today's society, but it would have to have been better than the actual teenage years I lived, being picked on by everybody, having this huge black ball of sadness and loneliness welled up inside me, and not even knowing the reason why.

[CosmicJoke]

Interesting topic, I appreciate it!

Everyone grows old one day inevitably, unless one dies at a young age of course . So when I see by "forced mistake" on Utube for example, a video thumbnail  of any of those very young MTFs that do actually look even prettier than beautiful cis women of a similar age, I just think that their beauty is a temporary thing, which will probably last maybe just a decade or so and then it will start inevitably fading away, but the REAL BEAUTY is in one's soul. BTW I didn't always think this way. I am finally starting to mature, in great part thanks to finding love with my BF almost for three years now and realizing that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and there is MUCH MORE to offer and share than just physical appearance. There's inner beauty as well. And now, I appreciate both, which I didn't do in the past. I really was shallow as heck when I started transitioning six years ago. I almost acted like I was in a competition to look better than others, both trans and cis, which was pathetic and futile in hindsight. I no longer feel that way, I just care about being seen, treated and accepted as a woman, which is hard enough in itself, specially with people who knew me before presenting as female, to be even worrying about looking better than other trans people which I'm sure they also have their own issues and hang-ups as well.

But to be honest, there is ONE SINGLE thing that, being realistic, I really do envy from other transwomen: THE VOICE. There are very few that both have a very beautiful speaking and singing voice. I have struggled A LOT to develop a nice one and I will never give up on that, but clearly I wasn't blessed with "good pipes genes" like very few others have been. There's not even a single one good singer in my whole family that I know of, so I hope to be able to fill that gap one day 

Cheers

Bibi B.

Yes, in the soul! To answer the op's question, yes I have felt jealousy. I would get jealous of transgender girls, that in my opinion were not as feminine as I am.
I associate beauty with femininity most of the time, and there were some people that naturally were in a situation where they were at the part of their life where they were living as women and transitioned/transitioning, though still were tomboyish or whatever.
It was like having a gift that was denied. I eventually matured though. I eventually learned that my own personal happiness needed to be the number one priority.
Who I am is who I want to be. Whether I was transitioned or not, I always was. It is like that for everyone.

[Nicole]

Agree.That's why I postponed my transition.

That said, kids have never crossed my mind until the last few months.
I didn't bank anything other than cash, but know there are other options out there if needed.

[gennee]

No, not at all. I'm happy with who I am. Whether I pass or not isn t important.

🙂

[awilliams1701]

I didn't think I wanted any kids at all and didn't hesitate to just start without freezing a sample. Lately as my maternal instincts have been starting I'm started wondering if I made the right decision. Ultimately I'm not a huge fan of babies, so instead of no kids ever I think adoption might someday be a better option for me.

That said, kids have never crossed my mind until the last few months.
I didn't bank anything other than cash, but know there are other options out there if needed.

[graspthesanity]

I think it also has to do a lot while you're waiting to start hormones/you're pre-op if you want to go further with medical transitioning, it's like... waiting for food at the restaurant and the waiters are serving others really:) You're not really jealous, but you want your food xD

At least that's how it is for me, I get mostly sad that I'm not on hormones yet but it's more of a sadness than envy.

[Nicole]

I didn't think I wanted any kids at all and didn't hesitate to just start without freezing a sample. Lately as my maternal instincts have been starting I'm started wondering if I made the right decision. Ultimately I'm not a huge fan of babies, so instead of no kids ever I think adoption might someday be a better option for me.

The only reason kids have crossed my mind lately is my best friend is having a baby.
I've spent more on that child already than Charlotte and "its" not due for another 4 months

[barbie]

I am basically gynephilic, and like a beauty. Whether she is cis or -trans does not matter here. Actually I have sometimes been attracted to pretty and feminine young guys (I do not think they were transgender).

I tend to regard people of natural beauty. I have no reason to envy women who underwent plastic surgery including FFS or HRT, whether they are cis or trans.

I feel companionship with many transgender or androgynous celebrities, especially Stav Strashko.

barbie~~