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Transsexual WITH A Decent Job?

Started by Leki, July 25, 2015, 08:52:43 AM

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Lady Smith

I was an automotive engineer, but after transition at age 42 I went back to school and retrained as a social worker.  I wouldn't say the pay was great, but it was adequate.  At no time was I ever made to feel any different from other staff I was working with and I was respected for my ability and skills.
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Beverly

Transitioning made little difference to my job as a business consultant. I lost a couple of clients but that happens to all consultants so it may not have been trans related and I could not be bothered to investigate. My clients include small businesses, local businesses and well known businesses such as Umbro, Budget Rent-a-Car and Burtons (Arcadia).

Why are some trans people more successful than others? For the same reason that some people are more successful than others - determination, confidence and self-belief.

In the trans community we seem to have high levels of self-doubt, depression and low confidence because the "before transition" life damages many of us and some of us never quite seem to fully believe in themselves post-transition or during the process.

It helps if you can blend in as male or female as the bulk of the population is not non-binary or genderqueer, but confidence is the key. If you do not believe in yourself then why will anyone else believe in you?
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KaylaMadison

I work in law enforcement in a Supervisory position. It's way better than minimum wage but not really high paying. It's good for me though, as others have said I would suppose it would depend on your definition of "decent" though. Also if you are having to support just you or others. What's decent for a single person is different for larger families.
Came out to self/wife - 5 June 2014
Started HRT - 8 April 2015
Full Time - 29 May 2015
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Sandy

Let me add my voice to this conversation.

I've been at my current position as a senior technical analyst for a large financial institution for fifteen years.  I transitioned on the job at seven years.  My transition was accepted without issue and in no way was I held back for my transition or new gender.  Indeed they were very helpful in ensuring that my transition was a success.

Yes, it can be done.  It is happening more and more.

-Sandy
Out of the darkness, into the light.
Following my bliss.
I am complete...
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iKate

I transitioned OTJ at my current job with nothing but warm reception.

I am a tech/engineering middle manager at a large, well known media company (television and digital media). I may be accused by outsiders of of having male privilege, but even through transition I had to endure stuff. And now as a woman I have to endure things like men in other areas of the building trying to chat me up. I mean some men are genuinely nice but some just aren't.

But the women in management and the team in general love me. Most of them anyway. Some I'm not so sure about but they will get used to me. The men are fine with me, actually not really treating me differently, just being careful of pronouns etc.

There are one or two men who don't say a thing to me now. Meh. No big loss. My rights are protected by city law and HR policy anyway.
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ainsley

Information Systems Auditor in the Internal Auditing Department of an large insurance company.   :police:
Some people say I'm apathetic, but I don't care.

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AnonyMs

It's really interesting reading all this, there's a lot of seriously qualified people here and it looks like everyone's got a job.

Is there anyone qualified for a decent job who doesn't have one?
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Beth Andrea

An option if one doesn't have a job, is to enroll in a college or university for a degree that is in high demand, with decent pay...ask your counselor when checking out degrees.

Don't go to the local-ish "technical schools" for dental assistant, office worker, etc. Their fees are often in the $10k-$30k range, and the jobs one qualifies for after completing the course is often pretty low relative to the cost (I've found it to be typically $10-$15/hour, which was ok at one time, but minimum wage is nearing that level in many places in the US)

Think math, engineering, IT/computer science, biology, chemistry, and teaching degrees. I'm sure there are many others that are good also (my interests are mostly in the sciences). Social degrees tend to not pay as much, but they (like teaching) tend to be very tolerant of diversity.

Don't do well in math or sciences? Take a few refresher courses, and motivate yourself to study. Unless you have a learning disability, the sciences are very logical and rational. (imho, not dissing others)

Apply for tuition assistance, housing on/near campus, ask about other assistance available to low-income people. And don't forget the community colleges! Much less expensive, and their credits do transfer to the bigger, more prestigious (and expensive) universities. (Community colleges offer the same classes that the "technical schools" do, but at a much lower cost...check it out, you'll see!)

Higher education is a good option...you can either sit on the street saying "Golly I wish I had a good paying job", or you can sit in the counselor's office deciding your future, and working toward it.

Just a thought.

Where do you want to be in 5 years?
...I think for most of us it is a futile effort to try and put this genie back in the bottle once she has tasted freedom...

--read in a Tessa James post 1/16/2017
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Lady Smith

I think attitude is everything.  When I started studying to be a social worker I was still struggling with the trauma of a recent rape as well as battling benzo addiction.  My tutors told me later that they were sure at first that I wasn't going to come back the next day, but somehow I always did.  The reason I kept coming back and finally graduated top equal of my class along with another amazing young woman who was a solo Mum was that I was determined to succeed.  I wasn't going to let the bigotted b@stards and the haters (including certain members of my own family) win out and name me trash, but most of all I did it for me.
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iKate

As an engineering grad myself - there is a lot of math. That said, I love math. I was in the math olympiad in school and won a few awards, and won a distinction in the Canadian Mathematics Competition (Fermat contest). I joke that I do recreational math like people do recreational drugs. I get high from doing problems. :)

I went to NYU school of engineering which was called polytechnic university at that time. In my classes there were few women but a few of those were pretty darned good. As was I. There was this girl from Russia who I would always compete head to head with in friendly competition. You could see her steam up when I beat her test scores. :)

I always want to see more women in STEM, cisgender or transgender. If that interests you, then go for it. Help solve the world's tough problems.
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Tessa James

I had a wonderful career as a Certified Registered Nurse Anesthetist, CRNA.  Working in surgery and especially obstetrics was a dream come true and I was able to assist in the most dramatic and intimate lives of women and babies.  Very well paid, I presented as an androgynous person and was likely considered to be gay and eventually came out trans. 

I must agree, however, that getting that job and nailing the interviews as a trans person is more challenging than keeping a job where non discrimination policies are enforced.
Open, out and evolving queer trans person forever with HRT support since March 13, 2013
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martine

I'm a research scientist in computational physics/chemistry at an industry leader. I've started my transition pretty much at the same time I started the job itself ! I've been open about it to all my colleagues and have got nothing but support !


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januarysunshine

You can be whatever you dream of being....or where life takes you.lol I worked as a cashier, sales girl, model, office manager, and marketing exec. It's hard to get into the professional world after modeling(clothes) but it can be done. I'd have done better than office management stuff if I'd gone to college...get your degrees girls!!lol hugs!


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Lynne

I personally know quite a few transsexuals who hold decent jobs after their transition but I have to admit they are all exceptionally good at what they do, so I guess that helps. Hopefully my bosses will still appreciate my skills even after my coming out as much as they do now.
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JLT1

Hi,

I'm a senior scientist at a 100 billion dollar company.   I make more than most MDs.  However, I have more education then most MDs so it wasn't a gift.  Quite the opposite, it was a long term commitment and hard work.

I transitioned on the Job.  There have been a couple of bumps - people who don't accept.  As a result, I will be starting a new job with the same company in January - for more money.

Hugs,

Jen

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ashley_thomas

Corporate lawyer here, worked "Big Law" for 7 years and now have my own firm with 1-2 lawyers, 2 paralegals and 1 business development gal working for me.  Been on my own for 6 years.  I'm the rainmaker.  We have fortune 100/500 clients and mid-sized companies and startups too. 

I started professional transition this month and will be done by year end if there are no hiccups.

I have no protections, I'm the employer, my employees can quit.  I'm the firm, my clients can fire me.

I have no intention of giving up what I've built, I may have a decline at first but I intend to find new avenues for networking and to end up higher than I was before I transitioned.

We'll see....


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Arch

I finally got some job security and teach at a public university. With modest pay and lots of deductions (including mandatory double retirement, which hurts), I don't make quite enough at my regular job to meet my obligations. So I have a second (part-time) job and teach summers as well. Someday, I would like to own a house, but a single earner with an unexceptional income in Southern California is definitely swimming upstream on that goal.

I've had to pay my dues to get where I am, and where I am is not spectacular, especially considering my age. Still, many others are not as fortunate.
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ainsley

Quote from: JLT1 on July 28, 2015, 08:58:54 PM
Now, speaking to a few who have already posted that they hold a successful career......  Become a gold or platinum subscriber!  Susan's could use the money and there are some here who, in giving $5.00, gave a huge gift from the heart for the support that Susan's enables.  We, who have the good jobs, can do better.

Good point! 

Disclaimer:
I will say that I am a bronze subscriber and will add the caveat that I have two sons in college, and a daughter in high school, I am in grad school, and so is my wife.  So, silver and gold are not gonna happen. ;)
Some people say I'm apathetic, but I don't care.

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Evolving Beauty

Oops! I don't think this thread is for me. I'm outta here...

Is Luxury Escort counted as 'decent job'? LOL!
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Beth Andrea

Quote from: Evolving Beauty on July 29, 2015, 02:24:41 PM
Oops! I don't think this thread is for me. I'm outta here...

Is Luxury Escort counted as 'decent job'? LOL!

If you can hold your head up and be proud of it...and make about average per capita for your area (or better)...then yeah, I'd say it's good.

I've always thought that it'd be a good position for me (no pun intended...well...maybe a little LOL) if *somebody* found me attractive and charming enough to pay for my time "escorting" them.

Alas, that's not going to happen. The people I'd want as customers definitely have their pick for escort work...
...I think for most of us it is a futile effort to try and put this genie back in the bottle once she has tasted freedom...

--read in a Tessa James post 1/16/2017
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