Functioning genitalia?

[RoseH]

This post might be graphic and triggering, so please turn away from it if you don't want to read about non-op genitalia 

For the last month of so, I've practically been incapable of achieving an erection, and if I do get one, it doesn't stay for long. I had a spike of this whilst I was on a high dose of anti-androgen (Androcur), but I got fairly back to normal once I adjusted my dosis to a minimum while keeping my levels in a female range.
I have a boyfriend who cherishes my entire body and since I don't have a big problem with my genitalia, I'm non-op for now. I do however have problems with my genitalia not functioning to the extent that I would rather have GRS if the problems are unsolvable.

So.. I believe that maybe as your brain and body acts more womanly maybe the ability to actually have enough blood flow to the genitalia is hindered, since a woman does not have any need for an erection. Also I get stimulated on many other ways now.
My dosis of anti-androgen is as low as possible, but maybe that in itself is enough to prevent an erection.

Do any of you girls have tips and tricks for me, be it Cialis, techniques etc.?
Is it silly for a woman to be sad that she can't achieve an erection?
Hugs

[Laura_7]

You could have a look here:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,181089.msg1651430.html#msg1651430

rubbing on each other might be pleasurable...

well some say its kind of more likable if there is no erection... but ts indivudual...

if an erection is desired it might be a possibility to ask for testo gel... for spontaneous application...

and it depends on the person...
anti androgens seem to be low already...


hugs

[Beth Andrea]

My erections are just half-@$$ed at best...(no pun intended)...I'm actually embarrassed to use it, not because I'm a woman, but a limp d*ck just doesn't provide any sense of pleasure to either party.

Viagra works...sort of. 100mg (2 pills) is what I have to take, pretty expensive except mine are free samples from my Dr...all it does is prevent spontaneous deflation (unlike the footballs in Patriots' games LOL ), but nothing else.

I'm using the time between now and SRS to learn how to use a vibrator to get off with just clitoral stimunaltion. I now know why women in porn have such a focused look while diddling themselves...it takes some serious concentration to O with woman parts!

[RoseH]

if an erection is desired it might be a possibility to ask for testo gel... for spontaneous application...

Thanks for the tip. I'm a bit sceptic though; what I can gather from reading the pamphlet is that women aren't supposed to use it because it can result in a masculine appearance, and also that it rubs off on your partner as well unless you wear clothes over the area.
It sounds like it counteracts anti-androgen.

[RoseH]

My erections are just half-@$$ed at best...(no pun intended)...I'm actually embarrassed to use it, not because I'm a woman, but a limp d*ck just doesn't provide any sense of pleasure to either party.

Viagra works...sort of. 100mg (2 pills) is what I have to take, pretty expensive except mine are free samples from my Dr...all it does is prevent spontaneous deflation (unlike the footballs in Patriots' games LOL ), but nothing else.

Haha, I love your response  Really, there isn't much to do than try to joke about it.
I have thought about trying Viagra though it's expensive, but I always wondered if it has any side effects for us girls?

[Laura_7]

Thanks for the tip. I'm a bit sceptic though; what I can gather from reading the pamphlet is that women aren't supposed to use it because it can result in a masculine appearance, and also that it rubs off on your partner as well unless you wear clothes over the area.
It sounds like it counteracts anti-androgen.

It does some... talk it through with your endo...
applied locally and some time before intercourse might be an idea...


hugs

[Beth Andrea]

Haha, I love your response  Really, there isn't much to do than try to joke about it.
I have thought about trying Viagra though it's expensive, but I always wondered if it has any side effects for us girls?

It was my endo who gave me the samples. He didn't offer any cautions or concerns. I was just straight up with him--wanted something to keep things operational until the operation.

It did not increase ejaculation or orgasm, it just allows one to get hard-ish when the mood strikes.

[RoseH]

It was my endo who gave me the samples. He didn't offer any cautions or concerns. I was just straight up with him--wanted something to keep things operational until the operation.

It did not increase ejaculation or orgasm, it just allows one to get hard-ish when the mood strikes.

It would be nice to be harder, it gives you more.. options..
I think it's maybe mostly a problem in my own head. It may just be because my genitalia has shrunken and I have to adjust to a smaller size.

[Laura_7]

It would be nice to be harder, it gives you more.. options..
I think it's maybe mostly a problem in my own head. It may just be because my genitalia has shrunken and I have to adjust to a smaller size.

Wel it might be a kind of different way ...
as said, like rubbing off on each others... with lesbians its called tribbing...

and anally might be a way for pleasurable experiences...
there are internal spots that can be stimulated, like the p-spot...
just take your time and use a condom and enough lube...


hugs

[RoseH]

Wel it might be a kind of different way ...
as said, like rubbing off on each others... with lesbians its called tribbing...

and anally might be a way for pleasurable experiences...
there are internal spots that can be stimulated, like the p-spot...
just take your time and use a condom and enough lube...


hugs

Oh I know how to get stimulated, that is not a problem at all  The only issue is hardness.
Since I'm in a monogamous relationship with my boyfriend and none of us have STD's, we never use a condom.

[Wednesday]

I'm in the same boat as you Also have a boyfriend that likes me the way I am.

This may sound illogical or contradictory, but I found the higher E dosage, the higher my libido is, the easier to get an erection (though they are not as strong and durable as pre-hrt). Also P helps with my libido and my parts.

Haven't tried Cialis, but I'm curious about it, sometimes I got more or less sudden deflations.

PD: I'm on a medium AA dosage (Flutamide & Finasteride)

[RoseH]

I'm in the same boat as you Also have a boyfriend that likes me the way I am.

This may sound illogical or contradictory, but I found the higher E dosage, the higher my libido is, the easier to get an erection (though they are not as strong and durable as pre-hrt). Also P helps with my libido and my parts.

Haven't tried Cialis, but I'm curious about it, sometimes I got more or less sudden deflations.

PD: I'm on a medium AA dosage (Flutamide & Finasteride)

Nice to hear 
Well, personally my libido is not higher.. But I find that it is still very high haha.
My boyfriend told me that he hasn't noticed I had a problem getting an erection, and that everything's fine.

I guess I just have to get used to the fact that the size has changed and that I can't maintain an erection indefinitely.

[Nicole]

Can I say I've always thought with HRT, sex drives and a lot of transgirls that if you want it to leave, it will.

I've always had a very healthy outlook at sex, I've always tried to understand when drives me and while my wants and needs changed, my drive didn't.
I had SRS at 21, but for those years I was on HRT with my old thing, if I wanted to use it, it got used, yes I had to change the build up, what drove me there in the first place, it it worked.

Now, some years later after SRS, its like a tap, I can be turned on just as quick as I can be turned off.

[RoseH]

Can I say I've always thought with HRT, sex drives and a lot of transgirls that if you want it to leave, it will.

I've always had a very healthy outlook at sex, I've always tried to understand when drives me and while my wants and needs changed, my drive didn't.
I had SRS at 21, but for those years I was on HRT with my old thing, if I wanted to use it, it got used, yes I had to change the build up, what drove me there in the first place, it it worked.

Now, some years later after SRS, its like a tap, I can be turned on just as quick as I can be turned off.

Thank you for adding your perspective to the topic 
I think it's very true, that sex drive is affected by your mentality. When we start HRT many of us experience that stimulation is not only physical any longer, but it is also highly mental.

[Oriah]

I've had this problem before.  Try exploring your kinks and fantasies.  There's usually a wellspring of motivation there

[Tessa James]

It is a delight to hear about other girls who are comfortable with their genitalia enough to engage in intimacy that includes an erection.  I accept myself as a girl with a penis that is very functional if smaller.  Pleasure and foreplay is different but worth the effort for us.  My mental wiring has allowed me to feel my erection as internal vs external for a long time and that sure works for me.

Like so much of our lives, the real challenge is between our ears not our legs.  I know of other trans girls with varying degrees of success and desire to keep it up

[RoseH]

It is a delight to hear about other girls who are comfortable with their genitalia enough to engage in intimacy that includes an erection.  I accept myself as a girl with a penis that is very functional if smaller.  Pleasure and foreplay is different but worth the effort for us.  My mental wiring has allowed me to feel my erection as internal vs external for a long time and that sure works for me.

Like so much of our lives, the real challenge is between our ears not our legs.  I know of other trans girls with varying degrees of success and desire to keep it up

Thank you for sharing 
It seems like it's a minority of us who accept and are able to enjoy our birth genitalia. I very much understand the girls who feel dysphoric about their genitalia though.

I'm not quite sure why I'm fine with my genitalia. I mean, I'm very much attracted to men and their parts, but it's not like we function the same way entirely. Maybe I've just gotten used to it 

[Oriah]

It is a delight to hear about other girls who are comfortable with their genitalia enough to engage in intimacy that includes an erection.  I accept myself as a girl with a penis that is very functional if smaller.

Lol I'm the best equipped lesbian I know.  My dysphoria was always the rest of my body.  Hormones fixed what really bothered me.  I function well even on hormones (my son is proof) and I've learned to use it well.  Maybe it wouldn't be my first choice, but there are undeniable perks.  If it ain't broke, don't fix it.  I think there are a lot of us who feel that way, but most don't advertise it.  I've been told enough times that feeling like that means I'm less trans than someone else.  What is that even supposed to mean?

[RoseH]

Lol I'm the best equipped lesbian I know.  My dysphoria was always the rest of my body.  Hormones fixed what really bothered me.  I function well even on hormones (my son is proof) and I've learned to use it well.  Maybe it wouldn't be my first choice, but there are undeniable perks.  If it ain't broke, don't fix it.  I think there are a lot of us who feel that way, but most don't advertise it.  I've been told enough times that feeling like that means I'm less trans than someone else.  What is that even supposed to mean?

Hihi 
Oh, how amazing with your son! If you don't mind me asking, you conceived after you started hormones? I'm asking because I didn't have a chance to freeze my sperm before starting HRT and I read about some risks which scared me.

I think it is so incredibly stupid when other trans girls tell us we are 'less trans' and basically 'less woman'. It's my genitalia, I'm a woman, therefore it's a woman's genitalia. I haven't read any non-op tgirls speaking down to post-op tgirls for any reason, and it is certainly not their place to criticize us for not hating a part of our body. It would be easier if our minority group stood stronger together.

[Oriah]

He was conceived 3 years after I started hormones.  All I did was stop my anti-American and sow the oats two or three times a day.  Within a month he was conceived