Biggest fear came to life. Rejection.

[Evelyn Ivy StaMaria]

Well this is my second post here. I've got nowhere else To turn to. Well my mum and dad know about what I'm going through and I can say that I've already begun transition some time back. But.... The rest of my family found out about it. And they all rejected me. Well most of them anyway. They said: "you may look like a female you may talk like one but you will never be one." And I've been broken ever since. It's been two weeks already and I still feel
That hurt they gave me. Well I'm done with being someone I'm not. I don't need their approval. As long as my parents support me I'll be fine. I just wish that things didn't turn out the way it did. I'm really lost right about now. I don't even know what I'm doing.

[Tamika Olivia]

That's terrible, and I'm sorry it happened to you. I don't know if anyone can say anything to make it better. Just keep in mind that it isn't your fault, it's the screwed up bigotry that runs deep in this world. You are strong, brave, and you won't let this break you

[awilliams1701]

Many of us know what you are going through. My parents and 2nd oldest sister all accept me, but my other 2 sisters don't. But that's ok. I've got a new family now. I have some new friends that are my new family. Family doesn't have to be about blood. I've known that for a long time, but haven't experienced it until recently. You are female. I don't care what anyone else says. Look for a new family to replace the old just as I have.

[Jessica Merriman]

Most of us have been there girl. One thing you will find out though is most members of this community will become more family than blood. I have kept in daily touch with many I met here over two years ago. They are my true family now and prove it to me everyday. Those that reject you do not deserve to be in your presence. You will see as time goes by that you definitely have a new family here and in our community.

[suzifrommd]

Hugs, Evelyn. It takes a strong woman to keep swimming against the current. You're obviously a strong woman. It will be worth it in the end.

[Rejennyrated]

If I may add a perspective from someone over 30 years further down the road...

I know it must hurt terribly, but in my experience sometimes people say things in the early days that they later come to understand were wrong. I never had family tell me that, but I did encounter the attitude, from people who now decades later would all admit that they were wrong, they didnt understand, and they didnt really know me. They thought they knew me, but since that time the circumstances of my life have led them to the realisation that they were mistaken.

So while I know it hurts badly now, I would like to hold out to you the hope that one day, the way you conduct your life may chalenge those opionions.

[FreyasRedemption]

I'm so sorry that you have to go through that. Nobody deserves to face rejection from their own family, especially for just attempting to be themselves. But stay strong, and don't let their words get to you. Personally, I would advice you to focus on something you like, try to forget their vile words, and let the flow of time do its work. In time, the pain will be gone.

[Evelyn Ivy StaMaria]

It's really hard to ignore what they said. But. I'll try to anyway. They've like, been away for two years and now that they've come back I expected hugs and kisses but I got hate and curses. Maybe some of them support me well Cos of the nice things they said. I also know that one of my aunts is transphobic. Yay~ *sigh* anyway thanks for the super sweet advice and kind words you all. Really means a lot to me.

[geeky_jamie]

Your a female, continue doing what your doing as you get one chance to live so live it happy.  I have started my rejection process because I let my wife post me on her facebook for the first time.  My family are slowly disappearing off her facebook with awful comments while our friends are praising me for courage.  You have to make yourself happy and I just came to this this past may in AZ.  I would rather be hated for someone I am than loved for someone i'm not.

[Rachel]

I am sorry you experienced bigotry, let alone from family. What was said today may change in the future but you may have moved on to people that love and care for you for who you are.

[Evelyn Ivy StaMaria]

Well at least some of them still love me no matter what I chose to be. That i guess makes me a little happy. And you just came out recently? Good luck, you have my best wishes.

[geeky_jamie]

Me?  Yes I put everything on the table to my wife in May, got professional help and was on hormones by June 1st and shortely out to all my friends from military, hs, and college (which all accepted me).  I was actually outed by a co-worker while on a business trip in may with 14 other co-workers from around world sitting there so that was very depressing at first.  I was discovered based off of my actions some 2 years ago at a pride fest.  (They accept me at work for the most part but I get weird looks at times but they get use to me)  I havent presented it to them though yet.     

[RevanDFS]

You don't anyone approval. If you think you do. You will always be let down and sad.Most of my family cool with me. I'm try to see some about going on hormone therapy.  But my mom and dad not so much. My wife is leaving me o well lol. But still great friends. Check this link Best Motivational speech

[cindianna_jones]

There are many jerks in the world and unfortunately, some of them come in the family. Yes you are hurt, but you are definitely not lost. You said so yourself. You know where you are going. When I got to that point, nothing and I mean nothing anyone said could stop me. It hurt a lot but every negative comment only propelled me forward. You must realize you will get more of this... and perhaps will get it from time to time for the rest of your life. Some from family and some from total strangers. Your true friends will sort themselves out and you'll know who they are real quick.

Chin up.

Cindi

[KristinaM]

My dad said basically the same thing to me.  "Next time you're in the shower, look at your body.  Unless they are doing hand and feet transplants, you will never be a woman."  Or something to that effect.  I had forgotten about that until now.

At any rate.  The best thing I can say to you is to not only "just ignore it," but also to remember that memories can fade with time and the hurt will lessen.  I am fortunate that cutting off my relationship with my father wasn't a big loss; I don't know if you can do the same. 

[Evelyn Ivy StaMaria]

Well the ignoring I can do, being called out  as a guy that stopped last year. But what's hard for me is rejection. From my own family. The way they just went: No. Or eww. Crushed me on the inside. Maybe I guess I've recovered a little from the incident but it still really bugs me.