You could look here:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,193934.msg1728688.html#msg1728688you could do a few things you like... like drawing, or writing..
there is a chat on susans by the way...
sometimes other people try to make other people fit their image of them.
But you are you, not an image other people have. You might tell that... that you will be still the same person, like your male/female twin, with the same sense of humour.. and some other feelings they do not know about...
you should do what you feel makes you happy...
Don't let those comments get to you. They are often meant to help you get onto a path they feel is more safe. Often its motivated by insecurity or fears of the people saying them.
here is another resource:
http://hawaii.edu/hivandaids/Some_Considerations_in_Coming_Out_Trans_to_Your_Parents_and_Family.pdfYou might think about a good gender therapist... a supportive person to help you along...
if they are not supportive look for another...
you might tell at home you want counseling, for emotional purposes, and pick someone who has gender on their list...
if its connected with emotional issues or depression it might be covered...
or you might ask at plannedparenthood, a lgbt center or a teacher you trust for counseling...
its a step by step process, but many have done it before and succeeded... just take the time you need but keep at it...
and it can be fun to explore a bit...
and if you want to talk to someone in person, you could talk to a friend or call here for example:
they also have a chat...
http://glbthotline.org/hotline.htmlhttp://translifeline.orgmany *hugs*
