androgynous/nonbinary transition options?

[skullkid]

Hi everyone! My name is Justin, and I am new here! I am 20 years old, and I identify as non binary. I recently came out to myself and my friends and I am still on a journey to accept and love myself, and my body. Growing up I always strayed from the binary, wearing dresses and makeup and playing in dirt and and playing race cars and all the gender normative traditions you could think of. I am a male body, and appear very masculine. I am tall and a little chubby, with wide feminine hips a wide chest, kind of muscular under all the chub with a half assed beard. I more then anything in the world want to transition to a nonbinary body without removing my penis, because i want birth kids and i even though its annoying I kind of like it! I am looking for resources, help, and advice in the topic of possible nonbinary transition options. is it possible? what can I do?

[suzifrommd]

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You certainly can transition in any way you want. Transition is not just for binary folks. If you value your fertility, probably best to stay away from hormones. Sometimes they affect fertility negatively. But there are a number of people who present in a non-binary fashion. We've had someone who presents as a bearded lady.

The thing you'll need to ask yourself is, what side of yourself do you want to show the world? Do you want to pass as female (that's kinda difficult without hormones, but can be done - female impersonators do it all the time)? Do you want to show the world that you can be both genders, and make a social statement? Do you want to be androgynous - and present so people can't tell you gender easily (that seems really hard, but some people here do it).

Understand that presenting non-binary throws people off. It causes social isolation. People are wired to gender you as a member of the binary and if they can't do it cleanly, they don't know how to relate to you socially. If you can handle that, fine. I couldn't, which is why I present 100% female to the best of my ability.

I hope all this helps.