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Started by KatelynBG, August 23, 2015, 04:55:36 PM

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ashley_thomas

I'm taller than the OP by several inches and was deathly afraid of transition due to height and I can say definitively - height, by itself, is a non issue.

My only problem is finding shoes and pants, skirts and dresses that are proportional.

I pass completely and I tower over folks.


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JynxRosalie

My height is definitely a fear I have for transition, but I'm also not overly tall (about 5'11"). My main cause of dysphoria comes down to things like hand size, foot size, and especially shoulder width...
My days end as I'm trying to find where to vent my irritation
The sky is gray, I can't see anything beyond
People who act like they have common sense are laughing; what kind of  lie will they tell next?
How can they treasure what they obtain with those lies?
But we've got to move ahead, toward tomorrow
So I'm going to sing like this
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Sammy

#42
Quote from: Sydney_NYC on August 23, 2015, 09:58:32 PMJust remember that when someone sees a tall women, the last thing on their mind is transgender unless something else clocks you.

Exactly. Another thing which I noticed in common was that none of those 6 ft ladies look fragile or subtle (not speaking of petite, lol), but they rock it in the good way - they usually have toned and athletic bodies with a tendency of having shoulders on the broader than average female range (maybe that's Nature to compensate for the height?). Anyway, I am 5.9, built like above and still gentlemen (even those who are shorter than me) often tend to assume that I am too weak to carry my stuff around on my own :D.
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Richenda

Agreed. I've worked in all-female staffrooms i.e. those born female and I've seen every shape imaginable from petite pixie types to really androgynous broad-shouldered and tall ladies with very large feet. Sorry if this isn't felicitously expressed but I'm trying to say that natural-born females come in all shapes and sizes so I really don't think it's so much of an issue for those transitioning or who have transitioned? And as someone mentioned, models are really tall: often 6ft+

I'm more concerned about my face shape but I don't want to divert the thread and that's more correctable.
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Tessa James

Yes we do get noticed and yes being confident, secure and unapologetic says we own it!  I have a BFF who is also trans and she is 6'5."  She had some concerns about all of this and then she met her new girl friend (cis) who is 6'2."  They are a power couple and I notice no one gives them much guff. :D  I am only 5'11" but I like feeling that I can take care of myself and not be intimidated easily.  Throw those shoulders back and strut girls!
Open, out and evolving queer trans person forever with HRT support since March 13, 2013
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Ashley Allison

Hi Katelyn :)
That this has always been a hang up of mine too... As I am almost an inch taller than you.  That being said, I was at a club last Saturday and a group of girls (not wearing heels) came up next to my group.  One girl was around 6'5, two were about 6'4 and the around 6'2 to 5'11; all were very thin, and didn't have really 'curvy' bodies.  They were easily knock you off your feet beauties, and for all intensive purposes, I believed cis.  That certainly gave me a confidence boost about my pass ability in regards to my height.  Additionally, on a weekly basis it seems like I meet a woman that is around my height (my current student profession leads me to meet many new people a day)... I do think that facial structure  and especially hormones and presentation (big time) have a strong role in passability, but for us tall girls I don't feel we should get as worked up on our height as we do.
Ashley
Fly this girl as high as you can
Into the wild blue
Set me free
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Harley Quinn

Quote from: AbbyDS74 on August 23, 2015, 10:02:32 PM
When people tell me that I'm tall I just tell them "I'm not tall, I can just reach the top shelves".

Oh my god... Ha ha ha... I'm stealing that one!
At what point did my life go Looney Tunes? How did it happen? Who's to blame?... Batman, that's who. Batman! It's always been Batman! Ruining my life, spoiling my fun! >:-)
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RavenMoon

I lived with a 6' tall cis girl once. Last year I was in a bar and one of the bar maids was 6'4"!  I've never seen a woman that tall before. I'm only 5'5" so she really towered over me!

So they do exist. 


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iKate

As long as you look somewhat proportional, I don't think you'll be clocked simply for being tall.
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OCAnne

Quote from: iKate on September 20, 2015, 01:35:45 PM
As long as you look somewhat proportional, I don't think you'll be clocked simply for being tall.

Does that mean being fat to match the height?  My trans friends call me the skinny #$#$*.
Will being tall and thin get me clocked vs. tall and fat?

What does proportional mean?

Thank you,
Anne (AKA Amazon Woman)
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YTMV (Your Transsexualism May Vary)
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SarahMarie1987

6'3 and some change here as well. I haven't gone out as Sarah yet in public. When I am out as Ryan, I generally slouch and hide myself away. Starting to realize that it is a mechanism for not being noticed. Like if I hide and repress myself, it will be easier to keep others out.

But this board has inspired me to stand up and own my height as the tall girl I am.!

:)
"I'm learning to be brave in my beautiful mistakes"- Pink
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Miril

a little "brass" + a lot of "class" = "Pass"
Miril

"One is not born, but rather becomes a woman"  Simone de Beauvoir,
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Qrachel

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Quote from: SarahMarie1987 on September 20, 2015, 08:59:41 PM
6'3 and some change here as well. I haven't gone out as Sarah yet in public. When I am out as Ryan, I generally slouch and hide myself away. Starting to realize that it is a mechanism for not being noticed. Like if I hide and repress myself, it will be easier to keep others out.

But this board has inspired me to stand up and own my height as the tall girl I am.!

:)

Girl, you be you and it'll work out.  Try to hide or otherwise disguise yourself and the unnatural queues you will give off become a dead give away.  It's much easier to focus on being all the woman you can be (and believe when I say it's a lot!) and let the world know you for who you are.

I live in LA and I see women all the time taller than me (6'2").  Ever go to a girls basketball or volley ball game - I've attended many and I've felt like a scrimp!  And still, those gals were terrific looking and so natural.

You are going to be a beautiful woman who stands out; for better or for worse (totally your choice) use it baby, use it.  As we say in LA, "the only time to worry is when they spell your name wrong (   8)  ).

TTFN,

Rachel
Rachel

"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I'll try again tomorrow."
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KatelynBG

As the OP, I like what this thread has turned into.
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Missy D

I'm 5'5" and a little bit, I don't even reach 5'6" but I think I'd like to be taller!! Putting on heels raises me up to a more normal level and I can, at least, look other people in the eye. It's not a male or female thing either - there are loads of girls taller than me and a few shorter men. Although they are less common. Weirdly I've often been told that I don't look short (?!?) because I stand up straight and don't slouch. I've heard of taller women being described as unusual but probs only because other people are jealous. I like the tall look.

The other thing I've noticed, for me, is the world seems to be designed for people of average height, weight and size. I'm below all three so encounter funny little difficulties all over the place. My car makes me feel like a child, lost in the middle of a huge seat and having to reach out uncomfortably to change gear!! It's only a Ford Focus too  ;) I'd be happier if the controls were closer together.

As well as that I find doors to be a problem - like the bigger metal ones in shops and so on!! They're often too heavy, so I have to stop and sort of brace my feet before opening one. Then some normal looking guy will follow me and, like, throw it open like it was made of cardboard. And don't get me started on gloves!!! Small gardening gloves? On whose terms could they ever be considered small?? Lol!! Oven gloves are too big, supermarket shelves are too high, most things are too heavy.

I'd say, just for me, the problems caused by life as a small person in an average world are far greater than the misconception that tall girls are inherently masculine. Just for me, I don't know because I'll never find out. Unless I get into seriously stacked shoes that is!!!  :-*
"Melissa makes sense!" - my friend
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Miril

How heartening to hear from so many tall sisters.   I am 6 ft and I used to feel like I was sticking out like a sore thumb every time I was out and about as Miril.   Nothing like being tall and self-conscious to insure that you do get noticed!   One day a very good, flamboyant and "out there" friend looked at me and asked if I was going to let the uninformed, bigotted opinions of a bunch of drab losers deprive me of the opportunity to express who I  really am.  I really had no good answer to that.   So on went the heels, up went the head and back went the shoulders!   I wont say that there isnt occasionally some finger pointing - but I really dont care much anymore.   

Love who you are and dont forget to help our vertically challenged sisters get things off of high shelves...! ;D

Miril

"One is not born, but rather becomes a woman"  Simone de Beauvoir,
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BunnyBee

I'm 6'2".  I don't remember the last time I had the feeling I wasn't passing. I don't even think about it anymore.
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Venus

As a guy I like being tall, but I don't like being 6ft as a girl. Honestly, I'd like to be somewhere between 5ft to 5' 6" but I guess it's not like we can change that so it's best not to worry about it. :P

Who knows, maybe they'll make synthetic bodies and have brain transplants into them someday.  :laugh:
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SarahSass

I'm 5'11, and while I was once told that i have "freakishly long arms" :'( *sob* my height never really comes up. the first few weeks of my transition, people said it was my voice that gave me away.
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Sabrina

I'm 6'1" and have no issues going out. I normally wear short skirts to show off my legs. Try showing off your best asset and going from there. Confidence should follow.
- Sabrina

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