all to common to see a recent post op expecting sensation at a few months.
give it a whole lot more time.
think of it like this....
aside from the nerve deafness caused by the trauma of the surgery, there are tons of things going on right now in your body and mind. your healing from a major surgery, learning life over, etc. your mind is re mapping the body.
the first year post, In my opinion should focus on your accomplishments, the arrival at the destination, learning life and body, finding that new normal.
sure everyone wants the perfect result, but before you find that screaming orgasm that makes your eyes roll back in your head, you need to heal, and know your new you.
dont let sex and that orgasm pursuit become the obsession. it will come in its own time.
do the dilatation thing, when its comfortable and there is sensation beside pain, take the time to explore the new gear a lil bit more. find whats working, and how it works. try different things, see what gets your motor purring. what was, is gone, you gotta find out what is.
that solo time will pay greatly in the long run.
the concept that because we considered sex and satisfaction a normal thing before surgery, does not guarantee the same results after surgery. we start over, in a foreign body, with no owners Manuel or instructions. time , and exploration , then more time, are the tools you need to use. add in a big serving of paitance and guard against frustrations.
another thing that helps is getttin a big mirror, and watching what your doing. you will be surprised at how well that works....
