I'm including the warning because I know some people are going to get jealous, feel uncomfortable, etc. So this topic probably won't be for everybody..
I recently broke up with my boyfriend of one year and moved out of our apartment. Just before that, I had hooked up with this really hot guy... It was very spontaneous, and we got comfortable with each other very quickly, and so we had sex. And he had never been with a trans-woman before, but got curious and even went down on me. Before that happened I was about to swear off men... My boyfriend wasn't a good example, and didn't treat me as well as he could have. He was just very distant and childish... So this other guy, being the polar opposite, made me lean back towards men.
Now it's about a week after my break-up... I use a few different dating sites/apps, and had my interest set to women. Well, my confidence had gone up from being with that guy, and my attraction to men was a bit more solidified. So I change my interest to 'men'.... and for days now my phone has been slammed with messages from interested guys. Really hot guys that I thought were out of my league are very interested in dating me... I get hundreds of views in a day, and many messages... Now, sure this is great for my confidence. And most aren't ->-bleeped-<-s at all. They're straight guys who are pretty much like that one guy I hooked up with; they don't mind or have a bit of curiosity in what I've got going on. I make it fully known on my profile that I'm trans and pre-op and make sure they know and understand that. And so many guys are cool with it or at least don't mind or don't care about that. The sheer volume of messages and overall attention I'm getting is mind-boggling. I'm honestly having trouble mentally coping with it. Having not grown up as 'the hot girl', and having not gotten this much attention before, I don't really know what to do or how to feel about it. It's like the twilight zone. Just a day and night difference... And it's not just that. It's being on the other side of it all.. As a guy, getting numbers is a victory and a big deal. As a woman it's like 'Oh, another number'. Or realizing that on the other side of the conversation, this guy is sweating it out. I used to be that guy! I mean, I guess many women go through this. But just being thrown into it all of a sudden, and coming from the other side of things, I'm in shock... And I have dates booked every night through next week. Never experienced that before. You kind of go through transitioning and think you're going to have difficulties dating. But wow, just total opposite of that now...
I know many of you are probably rolling your eyes right now, but I mean.. Has anyone had a similar experience? Did you develop any coping strategies with the new-found attention? And did you find a lot of acceptance and interest in the dating world, aside from just ->-bleeped-<-s? I suppose it'd be one thing if I just turned off my phone and stayed home, but I want to move on from my last relationship... So I kind of have to deal with this if I want to be with anybody else again, and I'm just stunned by all of this. It's hard enough dealing with some of the physical and mental changes, but now social too... It's a bit psychologically straining...
