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Extremely strong reaction to going out in "guy mode"...

Started by Ms Grace, August 28, 2015, 03:02:55 AM

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lemons

Grace, were you being read as a "guy" that whole time you were out?
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Lady Smith

What an ordeal Grace!   :o  I don't think anything could ever get me to pretend to be male again.  The week after I started HRT everything I owned in the way of male clothing went into a big rubbish bag and I donated it all to the local Red Cross Society shop.
As for ties, the last time I wore a tie was when I had to go to a corporate evening back when I was still working in disability employment around 16 years ago and I did a gender bender which was a lot of fun.  Otherwise these days while I often dress androgynous none of the clothing I wear is from the male side of the racks and I have no plans to ever own any (Ick cooties!)

With getting my hair professionally cut and styled back when I was still working I used to go to a small local owner operated salon where I was completely welcome and accepted as being TG.  They were really great and gave me such a lot of support, advice and encouragement.
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Lizandri Roth

Personally I can't wait to get rid of all my male clothes.  I'm only female in my home but 80% of the day I have to be in 'guy mode'.  It's starting to kill me.  And the last time I wore a suite was at my cousins wedding in 2011.  After that day I made a vow to myself that I will never wear a suit ever again.  I think my wardrobe consists of 70% female clothing and the rest male.
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barbie

Quote from: Ms Grace on August 28, 2015, 03:02:55 AM
And then I realised... that's exactly how I used to feel before I transitioned. Not as extremely of course, but that visceral response was what I had managed to push down and cope with for most of my life. No wonder I was miserable and depressed before I transitioned.

A shift from M to F is smooth and easy, but the reverse shift from F to M is stressful for most m2f transgender. Transition is in overall irreversible. You will go further and further to F, and less and less to M.

Passing is not an issue here. I like wearing skirts and heels although every knows who I am. With my family, I always wear skirts. Wearing male clothes is intolerable and not desirable to me.

Today was the first of day of this semester, and I started with wearing heels and knee high skirt in my first classes.

barbie~~
Just do it.
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Lyric

A lot of women with considerable hair loss do the head shaving thing because it allows a wig to fit very closely to the scalp, which is more realistic looking. I suspect you've already figured this out, though, Grace. I haven't tried it myself, but my hair's been getting progressively thinner over the years, so I probably will start wearing wigs full time soon enough. Some of the best wig looks I've seen have been on women with shaved heads. You'll find a good deal of tutorial info on YouTube about self head shaving. Here's one on a lady's first go at the "GI Jane Look":
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Check her video list for a very informative set of videos she's done as a young woman who started wearing wigs due to hair thinning (https://www.youtube.com/user/my0little0secret/videos). In fact I've found there's pretty much nothing about wig wearing I can't learn something about with a simple YouTube search.
"Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life." - Steve Jobs
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Sharon Anne McC

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Years ago my cousin invited me to her wedding.  She knew I changed, had not yet seen me as Sharon / female, but did not know I had my operations.

When my dad arrived to pick me up, he brought this horrid-looking orange-brown men's suit to me and told me that the only way my cousin would accept me at her wedding would be as Nick, my male predecessor.

I told my dad 'NO!.  I am a woman.  I do not go around wearing men's clothes.  She accepts me as me and I go as me.'

Needless to write, my dad went without me.

I would have appeared outlandish had I gone as they demanded:  long feminine hair style, very obvious 'C' girls (I don't go bra-less), holes for my earrings, ERT also changes one's body scent and skin tone to female, I had no facial and body hair.

I eventually learned there was a set-up planned to embarrass me with no place to hide despite this being my cousin's wedding.

A few years later, my counsellor asked me to wear men's clothes to my next session.  I arrived as me in my female attire  same as usual.  I expressed the same to him as to my dad.  I am a woman; the very thought dressing and / or presenting as male creeps me.

I long ago dumpt all my left-over menswear to Goodwill and had no male clothes even if I wanted to wear them for the counsellor.  I have not worn men's attire since before I attained forever female (June 1985).

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1956:  Birth (AMAB)
1974-1985:  Transition (core transition:  1977-1985)
1977:  Enrolled in Stanford University Medical Center's 'Gender Dysphoria Program'
1978:  First transition medical appointment
1978:  Corresponded with Janus Information Facility (Galveston)
1978:  Changed my SSA file to Sharon / female
1979:  First psychological evaluation - passed
1979:  Began ERT (Norinyl, DES, Premarin, estradiol, progesterone)
1980:  Arizona affirmed me legally as Sharon / female
1980:  MVD changed my licence to Sharon / female
1980:  First bank account as Sharon / female
1982:  Inter-sex exploratory:  diagnosed Inter-sex (genetically female)
1983:  Inter-sex corrective surgery
1984:  Full-blown 'male fail' phase
1985:  Transition complete to female full-time forever
2015:  Awakening from self-imposed deep stealth and isolation
2015 - 2016:  Chettawut Clinic - patient companion and revision
Today:  Happy!
Future:  I wanna return to Bangkok with other Thai experience friends

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