Thought about piercng my lobes, for about 50 yrs. At 66, first piercing for Halloween at Claires. Then a second for Thanksgiving. Third for New Year. 3 ea. lobe, no cartilage. Almost a year now. More options than a tattoo. Piercings close and heal over if not used. (NOT GAUGES !!!)
That opened the closet door! Earrings are or can be on the gender edge.
Mostly we do assymetrical groups. Mostly small studs and small hoops, pearls. But we do larger hoops/jewel studs, knots, hanger bangles now & then. Perched on the edge of gender presentation.
We do our own jewelery designs. My cis-F sisters love my stuff. I do all sorts of long, dangle stuff, stuff I won't wear most days. We comb the jewelery junk at thrift shops, along with the clothes.
Wearing jewelery and looking at it makes a gender presentation statement. Obsessive that I am, I have hundreds and hundreds of earrings, even more jewelery parts ("findings").
Earrings very much opened the closet door for me.