"You're lucky..."

[Miyuki]

I have wondered about this myself and to that end I have posted twice in the picture threads asking for opinions and I have never received any apart from a lovely one from one of the Mods but even still it was a diplomatic comment. So I guess that tells me all I need to know about my ability to feminise...

I don't even post in the "Could I pass?" thread anymore, because I realized I can't effectively tell if someone can pass based just on their picture, and I certainly can't tell how HRT will affect their ability to pass in the future. I wouldn't let it bother you too much. Just look at the before and after thread if you ever need a reminder of the kind of changes that are possible.

[stephaniec]

I definitely wouldn't rely on those threads to judge your appearance . I've only received a reply a couple of times and I've posted a good number of time since starting 2 years ago. I basically go by how I feel and how I perceive my own change.

[Deborah]

The general rule I have observed in those threads is that if you're older than about 40 or so you get pretty much ignored.


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[Miyuki]

It could arguably be said this is also a problem cisgender women tend to experience...

[Violet Bloom]

  There are a couple of ways I can approach this question.  If it's about what other people thought of me pre-transition then I'm lucky for my effortlessly-slender build, youthfulness, lack of strong masculine features, beautiful eyes and a nearly complete head of hair.  If it's about how I personally felt going into transition then I would have to say I'm luckiest for not even remotely needing jaw surgery to pass, lack of a marriage/kids to complicate things, and wonderful parents I felt I could count on to support me unquestionably when the time came to reveal the truth to them.

  There's plenty more I feel lucky about, particularly now that I have the advantage of being able to look back over the vast majority of my transition, and certainly my life, in retrospect.  Everything that made me an atypical male, that caused me so much grief and heart-wrenching soul searching, has served me well in the end.  I suppose I'm luckiest that the only severely broken thing about me had been my mistaken identity.  I've learned through transition that being myself without reservation was actually the right path.  It's a vindication of sorts of the qualities I always valued most in myself.  I suppose the best confirmation of this is that while no one ever understood me very well when I lived as a guy, now when they find out I've transitioned to a woman the response is most often, "I guess that makes a lot of sense."

[Jill F]

Sometimes I feel like I'm the luckiest unlucky girl in the world.

[Asche]

I'm lucky in a number of ways:

* I'm financially secure.  If I lose my job because of transitioning, I can just retire a little early, and still have enough to pay for any surgeries.

* My company is large enough that they actually have a policy somewhere on transitioning.  (I found a link to it on our company's website, but I don't have the permissions to read it.)

* I live in a fairly tolerant part of the USA (NYC area) and so far nobody has batted an eye seeing me in "women's clothes".  (I'm only just starting transitioning, so I don't even begin to pass.)

* The non-work communities I spend time in (Contra Dance, Unitarian Church, Chorus, etc.) are open-minded and in some cases actively welcoming.

* I'm divorced and haven't gotten grief from my ex.  (I'm pretty sure she knows, but we haven't discussed it.)

* My kids both know I'm transitioning, and are okay with it.  (Basically, they're "whatever.  When's dinner?")

* My parents are dead, so I don't need to worry about coming out to them.  (And anyway, we were never all that close, so I don't think I would have been devastated if they'd disapproved.)

* Family has seen my gender non-conforming dress and not said a word.  (It would be out of character for them to get all worked up about it anyway.)

[awilliams124]

Physically I feel lucky in having a very small/non-existent adam's apple and a not very prominent brow ridge.  But most of all I am thankful for a naturally light and high-pitched voice (thin vocal folds apparently).

Physically not so lucky in having quite thick fingers, though after four years I haven't heard any of the "she's got big hands" comments.........yet. Perhaps the long painted nails diverts the gaze a little, who knows? I also feel quite broad shouldered but as I am a UK size 14 I suspect this isn't excessive either.  In summary I could have been a lot less lucky, and I am very thankful for that.

[DarkWolf_7]

Most of my luck is simply from where I live and where I go to school. I'm super lucky to be an environment that is pretty accepting that I didn't have to worry too much about transitioning here. I'm lucky that although I don't have the most accepting family, I'm not going to get disowned. I'm lucky to live in a state where laws are being passed involving the protection and insurance coverage for trans* folks.

Body-wise I'm lucky in the fact that I'm 5'9" though I'm not sure height really matters, I have plenty of cis guys who are 5'6" and shorter. I'm lucky that being thin I don't have much curves to loose (but it does mean I have a lot of muscle to build, so I guess it's a trade off).

[Christine Eryn]

I was blessed with absolutely nothing except for high cheekbones and the overwhelming will to transition. HRT made everything else possible. FFS and hair removal were the other key components. Before transitioning I wish to God I was one of those people that simply puts on makeup and is completely transformed, or someone who transitioned in months where it took me nearly a decade of struggle and torment to get where I am.

I'm living proof you just have to live through it and fight until you reach your goals. 

[sparrow]

Physically?  My body screams TESTOSTERONE!  My hair is red and I have dark freckles, so laser/thermolysis are out.  No body fat to speak of, so I don't fill anything out.  No luck there... well, I guess my hair is sparse on my cheeks so I've got that to be thankful for.

My luck is in where I live.  I go out looking like a guy in a dress (well, not a dress, I don't have any dresses).  I'm moderately- to well-accepted.  I haven't been threatened or harassed.  Mostly, people go about their business, and some people smile at me.  Every friend I've told has been supportive.  Last time I went shopping, the gal who helped me out was super chipper and acted delighted that I found stuff that fit.

[kittenpower]

I was blessed with absolutely nothing except for high cheekbones and the overwhelming will to transition. HRT made everything else possible. FFS and hair removal were the other key components. Before transitioning I wish to God I was one of those people that simply puts on makeup and is completely transformed, or someone who transitioned in months where it took me nearly a decade of struggle and torment to get where I am.

I'm living proof you just have to live through it and fight until you reach your goals. 

Patience and persistence have paid off for me as well; I was on HRT for five years and had my first round of FFS before I went full-time.

[thorhugs]

Most of my luck is incredibly physical. I used to say that I wished I could give my physical attributes to one of my trans dude friends. In the end I guess I did! I'm tall and broad in the shoulders. I have no hips. My Polish heritage gifted my a great deal of body hair. I even already had a rather masculine walk.

I also live in a very accepting city and have very supportive friends. A fair number of them are non-cis in one manner or another.


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[CarlyMcx]

Height and general frame size. I'm slightly overweight, 5'6" and I can fit sizes 8-10 easily. I will lose some weight soon, just don't want to starve myself. I could get down to a 6 or possibly 4 if I wanted to.

I burned off 13 lbs (so far) by eliminating soda from my diet, switching to oven baked potato ships, and eating Fresh and Easy lean dinners.  Doing an hour of cardio in the morning and 45 minutes of tai chi in the evening when I can fit into my schedule didn't hurt either.

That said, I am 5'7" and size 10, and not particularly hairy.  My one problem is I have big hands and feet even for a guy my size.  I wear womens size 11 shoes.

[Khatru]

Physically the only thing I can think of is my height. I've always been tall. I guess I'm also pretty hairy even before T, but I'm kind of indifferent towards body hair.

[barbie]

I had been teased for my feminine features, including emotional ones, at my teens, and I am happy that those features can now be categorized as lucky, and even some of my female friends envy of them. My goal now is to delay aging process by practicing Zen.

barbie~~

[Katiepie]

I am lucky for my phone voice being feminine, I used to hate it every time I was gendered female over the phone, but love it now that I am aware of myself. My hips and body shape, since I have somewhat of an hourglass figure.

Kate <3

[ToniB]

I am lucky in that My face has feminised very nicely my breasts are at least large enough to show (44B/38C) .and one of the best things is I have never had an Adams apple to give me away .Not too hairy and I am so lucky that My beard has practically stopped growing altogether .I am only 5 feet 6 inches tall so easily well within female norms size 8 feet shrinking to size 7 woman's . at 60 I have no male pattern baldness so altogether I have a lot to be thankful for

[Dana88]

TL;DR  post what you're lucky to have/thankful for, physically, that has helped your transition!

The other day my aesthetician who does my laser treatment on my legs/body said to me, "You're lucky".  How so now?  Well to have such fair skin, dark hair, and be so naturally unhairy, which is a huge boon in terms of getting rid of the bit of hair left on my body (as far as her area of practical concern lay, of course).  She was telling me how another client who just started transitioning is really hairy but they are red-headed and the laser isn't all that effective and they'll probably "have to wax".  Of course, I told her hair diminishes naturally over years when hormones are involved, but still... it made me think:  I am lucky in terms of body hair!  I've heard that statement before about this and that concerning my transition from different people who focus on different things (lucky for small hands, good skin, booty etc), but it's so easy to get caught up on what's NOT a home run physically that it sometimes overshadows what IS working!

So ladies and gentlemen:  Post what you feel you've been really lucky with in terms of living your true gender.  Bonus points for things you felt were embarrassing living with as your born sex, like high-pitch voice, small feet or gynecomastia.

Ex:  Did you have good hair with virtually no MPB?  Wide hips naturally?  No brow ridge to speak of?  Born petite (hi 5"4' club!)?  Maybe you feel transitioning at 16 made you "lucky"?!

Same with the men:  Perhaps flat-chested right through puberty?  Naturally hairy?  Already started with a booming, bassy voice?

List em up... what are you physically thankful for that works for you now?  How do you feel "lucky"?

Slender hands with long feminine fingers. While they're not *small* feet per se, being a size 10 women's and being able to find shoes just in a store rather than needing to find big ones. No Adam's Apple. Thick head of hair and big feminine almond shaped eyes. And I'm small boned/framed with naturally narrow shoulders and wider hips. When I was attempting to be a man I tried to hard to build up my upper body to balance out my hips which as a boy I used to get made fun of for. It's funny actually my laser person commented on my overall frame size saying how she's treated other trans people before and how I'm lucky cause I have very "fine and delicate bone structure." All of this said, I'm not so lucky on the body hair front. At least I'm pale with dark brown hair so zapping it all off with a laser isn't too too hard (just started lasering my body after a year of HRT). I also struggle real hard with weight issues, which disguises my smaller frame and makes me look bigger than I am (pre-diabetic, recovering from an ED, still have binge eating issues). I can get fixated on that and lose sight of where I am genetically lucky.


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[Jessynecessity]

Pros:

Face
Eyes
Body
Voice
Family
Confidence

Cons:
Face
Eyes
Body
Tit size
Skin disease
Family
Housing
Employment
Addictions
PTSD
Genitals
Genitals
Genitals

Genitals.